My Single Mom Life

Like i said those were my opinions. Opinions as in it does not matter what i think. But- i was angered by your statements, because i am a friend of his. Do what you must. I never threatened you. It is called a comment. If you'd like to email me directly go ahead. I am a female, who happens to know your ex. I am defending him because he is a friend. You are right.. i do not know you. I was not there for your relationship. I am simply a third party who had something to say. Sorry if i offended you, but i felt the need to say something.

M as in model Michele?

Opinions are more valid and taken with more credibility when the person with the opinion, actually knows what they are talking about. You want to be angry at something M? Be angry at him for lying to you about his kids. For lying to you that he loves them. He told his son that and that was the last time we have heard from him. Get over him? This isn't love I got feeling here girl, it's hate. Pure hatred for telling my son, his son, that his band was more important. Nothing like telling your 9 year old son that they have no place in your life because music is all that matters.

You didn't offend me. You pissed me off because you friends of his just take his word for everything that happened. You weren't there for the constant parties when Mark Jr was a baby and Sebastian was inside of me and people sleeping on my floor every night of the week and eating our food and leaving beer bottles all over a home I was raising my child in. You weren't there when I had to get an AIDS test at 8 months pregnant with Sebastian because he had slept with a couple of different women without protection.

Don't you dare tell me that I am wrong about him and try to tell me he loves his kids. He needs to prove it to them. He needs to call them and write them and let them know what he keeps telling you. Love is not a word the members of my little family throw around lightly girl.

My sons and I love each other very much. I would die for my sons. I have sold most of my possessions to take care of them and feed them. I have stood in long lines to make sure they have nice holidays and I work my ass off selling shit all year long to get them at least one nice toy for birthdays and christmas.

Would he die for them? Would he sell everything he owns for them? Would he go hungry so they could eat?

When he can do all those things and call them and send them letters and talk to them like the fine, young, intelligent young men that they are, I will stop being a fucking bitch.

From our email discussion:
Her: Again- i did not mean to offend you. I was not making a threat. As you stated:
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" I get to just get out of my system whatever may be in there needing to come out.
If you agree with it, cool, we share an idea.
If you don't, that's cool too.
Being an individual is something I admire.
I'm not on this side or that side, I'm on my own side.
An old friend long since gone, once talked to her young sons about my way of life, my belief system.
One of her young sons once said to me in all seriousness at the age of 10, "you're a fence sitter."
I don't think he honestly knew what that meant.
But I'm not a fence sitter.
I walk along the top balancing myself carefully making sure to keep both sides weighted evenly.
I can look objectively at both yards."
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I am not claiming to know everything, nor am i making threats. I felt you should at least hear my opinion. I know you are not in love with him, i did not mean it to come across like that. Anyways, again i am sorry for the misunderstanding. I am not pitching for him, he does not even know about this.. i stumbled on your site searching for cats on the net.. This was my own battle. I got your opinion, and i wont bother you anymore. - Michelle

Me:Michelle,

I admire you for even having the courage to try and stand up for him with me. I am the bitch he tells his friends about but not for the reasons he will admit to.

I value differening opinions but at least, know the subject well enough to talk to me about it and my marrige and divorce from him is something none of his friends will know the truth about unless they talk to both of us.

Thank you for the apology. I will post that in the comments because as a rule, I never delete a single entry on my site. I will make sure that people see your latest response.

Thank you again for apologizing.

Well isn't this classy.Is this what you have been doing for the last 12 years?(SAD)Kathy you are pathetic get a grip on life.You are spending all this time being angry at me and the world when you could be enjoying your life.You think slandering me all over your web site is going to help anything.As far as the band you have no idea what happened or what is going on and if you continue to slander me on this web site I am going to have to take legal action.You can't talk about someone like your doing when you have no legal facts to back them up.Why don't you let people know all the negative things about you.There are two sides to every story people.I think you all have the right to know both don't you Kathy?I suggest you remove the remarks about my band and my personal life,wich you know nothing about or you will here from my attorney.Being hateful is no way to solve anything I thaught after 12 years you would realize this.

Hey Mark, I have an attorney too. And I never said that you stole shit. I said it was my feeling that you did. That's a whole lot different than saying that you did steal from them.

And as far as your personal life, they are my kids, my child support that you don't pay so uh, it's my personal life too.

And the people here do know about my life Mark. I write everything here. I don't hide the facts from anyone.

I have every right in the world to talk about my kids and their non-relationship with you. Noticed how you didn't even mention them. See. And you tell people you love them.

Oh, nice ip Mark and Michelle. ;) 24.198.61.112

Well once Mark starts paying the back child support he owes then he can worry about paying a lawyer to sue for slander or liable. What a dork.

It's nice he occasionally feels like paying support. what a great guy. (not)Maybe he can sell some crappy band t-shirts and pay the back child support, He should be in jail for being a deadbeat dad.

Yeah, you like that Rah? He can afford an attorney but not child support for all 5 of his kids. He can afford to sue me but not pay a lousy court ordered $21.00 a week child support. And I do so love the fact that he came here all high and mighty bitch bitch bitch at me and he tells everyone how much he loves his kids and not ONCE did he mention them in all of that.

For some one so fertile he is pretty dickless.

Him:Yes you did it's on your site.You said I stole from my last band which is complete crap.Everyone here knows that,So yes that is slander! Kathy are you really going to waste your life away trying to make mine miserable? You don't bother me,your man hating web site is very commical.I don't care how long you want to shit on me on the web as long as you use facts not fiction and accusing me of stealing is fiction! That I will not tolerate.Call me an ass hole a shity father I don't care.I know I am a shity father to those boys and allot of the reason is because of you and you know it.Maybe if you could shut your mouth and let the boys and I establish some sort of relationship,we could all move on.I don't think you want that,I think you want the boys and I to not be close.This way you have something to hate and bitch about.You have always been a very bitter women and I think you always will.It is very sad,you have wasted 12 years of your life hating me,when you could have been getting on with your life and being happy.I like how you block my ip.Very funny,you say you never take off any response yet you won't allow me to speak my mind.It's ok you can have your little hate me club I really don't care.Grow up Kathy move on with your life before you are 70 years old and alone and full of regret.If the boy's would like to talk with me I would love that,negative or not.But without your two cents in the mix! Good luck Kathy I hope someday you realize that you are wasting your life with anger.It gets you no were.Take care.
Sincerely,
The Hated Ex................

Me:
Mark,
I said you supposedly stole from the last band which is the information I was given by the state attorney for Maine who calls me every 6 months to update me on the child support case. It is not slander to say the words supposedly and it is my gut instinct that you did.
I did not start anything today Mark. I have made 2 entries regarding you on my site. 2. Your new girlfriend came to my site tonight and wrote off 3 separate comments about you. I did not start this, she did. I simply responded publicly on my own site.
My telephone number, 9xx-9xx-2xxx is the same number it has been for 5 years Mark and you don't call them ever. Our address is still the same and you don't send them cards or anything. I don't know where you live to have them send you pictures or letters. We have not moved, you have.
I have gotten on with my life. I have had some very wonderful men as part of my life but right now, my health is very bad and I have too much to take care of to handle a relationship Mark. I have to take care of my home and my kids and bills etc.
I don't delete posts or comments but as owner of that site, I have every right to block the ip of anyone who is harassing me and your girlfriend lied by posting as an aol user, lied saying you knew nothing about her being on my site and then you post just a few minutes later from the very same ip. I will not be harassed by the 2 of you when I did nothing to start this quarrel tonight.

This is a very personal thread, so I'm not going to say much, but I DO know that you've always stated that you wished he contacted THEM.
You go out of your WAY for your kids, and you prove to them that you love them every day.

I don't think he's done that.

It breaks my heart to know that they miss a father-figure, and that the dad himself cares more about his 'status'. And lies to his (girlfriend?) about that.

Instead of leaving a comment, he should have called/written them.
Slander? Is that all that matters when you have 2 boys broken-hearted over you?

This only proves that you have every right to call him a loser, Kat!
I love you honey *hugs*

And *should* 'someone' want to get into an argument about this: I'm not going to comment on this anymore, because it's too private.

Julie, this isn't private. I have always been very open and honest with anyone who asks about this issue. And he can't argue anymore, I blocked him because his girlfriend lied about her intentions here and they share the same net service and I will not be harassed by them. I didn't start this quarrel tonight, she did.

Kat,

I'm sure this isn't breaking news, but Michelle is the new girlfriend who is in the honeymoon phase of her relationship with your ex.

Poor Michelle can't see through the "my boyfriend's in a BAND" brag yet.

Give her time. She will wake up.

They both look silly responding to you in the way they did- if it were the two of them and not one or the other.

Like you said, no mention of the kids at all. How surprising!

Thank you Hennepin. I knew it was a new girlfriend as soon as I saw the name Michelle. One thing I have found really funny after many years went by, is barbra told everyone I was right afterall and that woman hated me with such a passion. I told her on the day we got divorced, when she was 3 months pregnant, to run away and run far or she would be sorry. It took about 4-5 years and then she said it. Kathy was right.

Michelle will come around just like all the other women in his life have. I am not the only ex he has. There are several exes but only one ex wife, me. I was the only one fooilsh enough to belive he could love, honor and keep a promise.

Look!! He paid child support last week!!!
04/08/2004 $5.04
Info taken directly from the state o maine webiste for child support.

Good grief. I thought I had troubles with my ex, but I knew yours was much worse.

I am truly at a loss for words...besides, everyone else has said it before much better than I could. What a dipshit.

WOW! Some fucking nerve! He never ever says anything about the boy's. If I remember right he said once that Sabastian couldn't be his because of his blonde hair! So one kid isn't his because he has his mother's hair color and the other isn't worth it because being in a band is more important then being a father!
He doesn't write or call even when the address and phone number have been the same for the last 5 years! What the fuck!!! WOW! What an ass hole!
Michelle wake the fuck up and RUN as far away from him as you can before he get's you pregnant and or give's you AIDS or something, with all of his dicking around you never know with him!

KAT, I love you girl! We all know your pissed for a reason! We also know that your a happy, fun, loving, kind person, and that the EX-bastard is the only one the is full of shit!

(((HUGS)))

Hi ya, Kat. It took me awhile to get through all the comments, and after reading them (as well as being familiar with some of your previous posts on said subject), all I have to say is: your ex was a dickead, is still a dickhead, and probably always will be a dickhead.

And it continues in my email.
Him:For your information the stealing shit was a lie that on of the other band members made to cover up his theft.He was later caught and is now out of state.So your state attorney is full of shit.He can't be much of an attorney.As far as my girlfriend goes,she was just browsing the web looking for cat photo's and your web site came up so she checked it out and saw all the crap you have on it about me.I got home and she showed me.Like I said before you can have your damn web site,I don't give a shit.I just think it is very sad that you still harbor all of this crap inside you.As far as the boy's are concerned your right I don't send them cards or anything.I gave up because every time I tried to be in there lives in the past,you always had to put your two sense in everything.I failed as a father to them.But for you to still shit all over me on the web when you don't even know me is pretty messed up.I don't shit all over you.I don't like you much either but I don't need to blast your name on the net and try to ruin your name.I just don't understand you,yes I was a shitty father I was 18 years old.You weren't exactly a queen your self.You moved to Florida,you ran away from your problems not me.The difference between you and I is I can admit to my wrongs,you can't.You always think you have an answer to everything.I might be a bad father but at least I am trying to make something of my self.What the hell are you doing? Besides being a rude bitter ex.All you have done is shit on me to the boy's and you wonder why I don't try to be a part of there lives.I lost before I even had a chance to get out of the gate.As far as you thinking I have money,well that's laughable.I am struggling just like you.I don't have anything.And if I do make it in music the boys will be well taken care of.I do love my kids,I just failed with them.I was young and stuppid.And now you have poisoned them to the point of no return.I should have tried harder with you to get along enough for the boy's and I didn't and as a result I have lost them.That is something I have to live with every day.I have my own pain Kathy but you don't see me blaming you for all of it.I am not telling the whole world of your faults am I? When the boy's are men and they are no longer with you,then maybe they will want to talk to me and ask me what happened and then and only then will they finally here both sides instead of yours.People make mistakes Kathy,they also do things they regret it's called being human.If the shoe was on the other foot maybe then you would see that you are not the only one who lost in all of this.I'm not going to write to you again,I am not going to harass you like you think I am trying to do,wich I am not.I just wanted to say my piece.I know you don't really give a shit but I am trying one last time to just
end all of this shit.Hate me I don't care just stop harboring all of this crap,it's un healthy.

Me:Mark,

"So your state attorney is full of shit.He can't be much of an attorney." The State attorney Mark as in district attorney, state prosecutor. They have been watching you for years. They know every gig you have played everywhere you played it. The state attorney, not just an attorney Mark.

"I got home and she showed me.Like I said before you can have your damn web site,I don't give a shit.I just think it is very sad that you still harbor all of this crap inside you." Mark, my 2 posts about you were not even angry posts. One, was about a letter the state sent me stating that your drivers license had been taken away for failure to pay child support and the other was about the supposed theft. Where does that say anger and resentment? Like I said, she started shit from nothing tonight.

Mark, I don't talk about you to them. The last time we ever talked about you, was in Maine that day when you said that to your son. It was his decision to never speak of you again, not mine. You trampled his heart that day and left me to pick up the pieces. We don't talk about you at all.

I voice my life, the things that happen to me and if that happens to involve getting a letter from the state DA, then I talk about it.

The boys have just read through all of the site mess that happened last night and they have a few words for you. We don't talk about you until you do make a move, send an email or whatever.

Sebastian says: My mom never says anything bad about you. I never said I hated you. You said I hate you. You're thinking that my mom made mark and me hate you when you made Mark hate you by saying that to him. That made Mark hate you. I had a good time with you that day. Mark never told us what you said until we got back to my nannys house. Dad, I want you to call me but you never do. I wait for phone calls or letters but you never do it. Call us sometime.

I asked Mark if he had anything to say and his response was that and I quote, " My relationship with him is over."

And if you don't believe me, pick up the phone, call them collect at 9xx-9xx-2xxx and ask Mark yourself. He is 12 years old, growing up and an intelligent young man who thinks for himself. What you said that day hurt him more than you know and we just don't about you because it hurts too much.

The hate I have for you Mark is because you hurt my children. Not because of anything you did to me personally but because my sons suffered from the lack of a father even when we lived there, you weren't a dad. I left for a better life and am happier for leaving.

Colin, **hugs**

Heidi,

See? People don't believe me when I tell them this crap and now, here it is, all out there for people to see.

Someones always got a worse ex huh Kim?...lol

I know, my Father is the same way he blames my Mom for the way thigns are between us. I don't have much of a relationship with my Dad now because of his actions NOT because of my Mom. Growing up my Mom always told me that my Dad loved me and she never said bad things about him. I relized when I was 7 years old that he never gave a shit and I relize now that no matter how much he blames my Momfor the way I feel or the way I think that he will never change and he made the choice to not be around for my life and when it really ment something! He's the ass hole, he could have been a great father to me and to my sister if he wanted to.
Mark can blame the fact that his kids are mad at him for being a jerk for ever and miss out on the rest of their lives, he can blame it all on you for ever if it makes him sleep better at night. But deep down he know's the truth, that its his choice that his kids might not ever be a part of his life.
He has a chance to try and be a part of their live's now or never!

My Father has cancer and might not be around more then a year or two and because of HIS choices not to be a father to me or even be much of anything in my adult life now I don't have much feeling one way or the other if he passes away right now.
Do you want that Mark? Dude you have a chance to get to know your kids, it doesn't matter if they live in FL or next door to you, you haven't made much of an atempt to let the boys forgive you and start over!

If you care like you say you do do it before you and your kids are in my situtation. My Dad is going to die and I might not give a crap about that untill he is dead and its too fucking late!

Don't be an ass hole forever!

Sorry for my bad spelling ... I just looked at it... Its 4am on my side of the USA and I need some rest. OOPS.

Heidi,

I am sorry about your dad. The feelings will come.

It is too late to save a relationship with Mark. But Sebastian wants to be contacted. I feel badly about Marks jrs decsion to not have anything to do with his dad but I am not the one who put something above the kids and I can't fix that. It took months to get Mark jr to stop being angry for making him see his dad that day.

Its like I said its a choice.

Give the boys hugs from me and tell them I miss them and I CHOOSE to be a part of their lives because they rule!!!!

"I was young and stuppid" And clearly he hasn't changed. Sorry, that just made me giggle. :) What a moron.

Good God Kat - exactly when did you become the bad guy? He's a frigging fruitloop. If you have children, PAY THEIR SUPPORT. What kind of "man" are you?
Gah!

Kate, I am the bad guy because I ask him to pay his support and be a man. I have more balls than he does.

LMAO! Yeah, I know. I spell checked all my stuff and hit the ignore on both his and hers because it's priceless.

Now he's just older and stupid....not to mention too old to be relying on 'music' to be his big career. Would be great if it did happen, though, then you could get all the back support your children need. I hope he will contact Sebastian and at least attempt to make amends with Mark, though.

I highly doubt he will contact them. This whole thing is for show. He just wanted to show his new girlfriend how great a dad he is and what a bitch I am. He can call for free and he won't.

Man, what a nimrod!

For one he needs to learn the difference between slander and libel, next he needs to realize that no judge in the country would find for him in a case like that, not even a TV judge hehehe

Not to mention he is a deadbeat dad - if you wanted to you could publish pictures of him and all kinds of information because of that.

It's also so funny that only a few minutes after the chick made this statement
" I am not pitching for him, he does not even know about this.. i stumbled on your site searching for cats on the net.. This was my own battle. I got your opinion, and i wont bother you anymore."

He just HAPPENED to come home and she showed it to him ... YEAH RIGHT! How stupid does he think you are? *shakes head* I bet if you checked out your site meter someone was searching for YOUR name and YOUR kids names, not cats on the net. Though I could be wrong I don't think so.

My ex-husband's now wife (prev online girlfriend when we were married) was nuts like that ... always searching out info and pictures of me. She even went as far to send pictures that she thought were too sultry to my PARENTS email that my ex gave her.

What it all boils down to is people are nuts - you know that you are raising your kids well and aren't doing anything wrong.... screw him and his "Poor me" shit

Well the only way she would have found me searching for cats is if she spelled it kat, not cat. It's possible, they both spell for shit.

Hehehe...Men are always great at turning things around and making the woman seem like the bad ogre. Ok, there are women that do that as well...My mother, for exmple is one that did this sort of thing to my father.
What a circus for you, Kat. You know the ones I am feeling horrible for? The boys. It breaks my heart that they are hurt, you know? But life will go on...and they will grow up better not having the father they have. Things happen for a reason. HUGS!

Rilana,

The boys are hurt and get hurt more and more and he can't see that it is him doing it. I know that people think I shouldn't let them see what he writes but fuck it ya know? I hid this from them for years but after that last time he saw them and hurt them, I said fuck you and decided that whatever he says from this day on out, would be for them to hear. I won't protect him. They will be ok. In time.