So sue me.
The ex now wants to sue me for slander and libel
He would need to prove that my personal opinions were made with malice in an attempt to harm or defame him.
The 3 posts, (well now 4) that I have written about him, are my personal opinions of my ex husband.
They were never intended to harm or defame him.
This is my personal webspace where I write about my life.
Post #1, I was talking about a letter I received from the state of Maine in regards to him losing his drivers license for failure to pay child support.
This is not slander or libel because it is fact that he does not pay his child support as the letter clearly states.
Post #2 is where I stated an opinion on the recent robbery/theft of something in his band. I stated that it was my gut instinct that it was him. This does not say it was him but says that I think it is him based on information given to me by third parties and my own personal experience of personally knowing him as my ex-spouse and his behaviors as witnessed by me.
And post #3, written last night after receiving falsely spoofed emails from his now current girlfriend, explains to her, in some detail, the facts of my marriage and divorce from him as only I would know them.
He says that his lawyer read my site this morning and that I am indeed breaking the law. He says he wants to sue me.
My response?
Let's roll.
I will be happy to face him in court on this issue and the lack of child support as court ordered in February 1994.
Comments
Hey all the power to you Kat. And I'd love to know how he can afford to retain a lawyer to read the web for him when he doesn't ("can't afford") pay child support? Dumb-ass... ya, have him "bring it on..." You have a right to state your opinions on your personal website ... this one has been tried before by other more prominent people and there weren't able to sue someone for personal blog comments either. I won't worry too much either.
Posted by: Anne | April 13, 2004 4:06 PM
I am so not worried Anne. I mean it. Bring it on! I would love the see the lawyer he has been able to retain on no income as he claims and if indeed he can afford an attorney, why can't he afford his child support which is $21.00 a week? Bring it I say!
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 4:09 PM
He can't sue you, as soon as they see that he hasn't paid child support for so long, and for that matter, how little it is, they'll take any money he gives them for that. They won't even accept a case he tries to initiate. Then, once his child support is caught up (ha!) he can "try" to open a case. However, with what he'd have to pay in court costs, it won't happen.
Besides, if it were that easy to prove libel/slander, politicians would be sueing left and right. It's not easy to prove, and takes some serious court time and therefore cash, which according to him, he doesn't have.
Posted by: Karri | April 13, 2004 4:10 PM
Yeah, his "lawyer" read the site - lawyers charge for time spent doing that sort of thing, you know. You'd think if he had all that extra dough rolling around to pay a lwayer to read your website, he wouldn't be defaulting on child support.
Unless it was one of those free lawyers, otherwise known as drinking buddies and/or girlfriends.
Geez, I thought only fifteen-year olds living in their parent's basements still thought that the "my lawyer looked at your stuff" line is actually believable by anyone with an IQ higher than a carrot's.
Posted by: Bill | April 13, 2004 4:10 PM
He got an appointment with a lawyer, actually saw the lawyer, paid the lawyer's retainer fee and then got the lawyer to read something all within 24 hours?
Damn. That's miraculous!
My uncle is a lawyer and I can't get him to do anything within 24 hours and he's my fricking uncle.
Posted by: Marti | April 13, 2004 4:19 PM
Unfuckingbelievable. Is he out of his mind? He can't even pay a decent amount of child support, yet he can retain a lawyer?
I wonder how long it would take this one to be laughed right out of court.
Posted by: kim | April 13, 2004 4:28 PM
I know Karri that's why I told him to bring it on and the only contact from his lawyer that I will accept is in writing through the postal service. I will not accept a cease and desist in an email which will probably be one of his buddies anyway.
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 4:33 PM
I know it Bill. I read that email and started laughing. I told him to bring it on.
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 4:37 PM
Isn't it Marti? I want a lawyer to work that quickly for me too. This is the same routine we go through all the time. He threatens, I tell him to bring it and nothing ever happens. If his girlfriend had kept her fucking yap shut instead of using AOL as a scapegoat and posting anonymous comments with her ip showing, none of this would be happening.
I wonder if I can forward those to AOL and let their lawyers deal with her lies....
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 4:40 PM
Kim, I would love to see this go to court. I would ove to see him even try. Like you said, it would laughed out as quickly as he brought it in. And then they could lock him up for failure to pay support. :)
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 4:41 PM
Gimme a break. His "lawyer" read the site? Huh. I wonder if this attorney realizes the asswipe owes how many thousands of dollars not only in your sons' support, but in the support of his additional children. I'm sure the court would love to take a look at a weak slander / libel case -- 90% of which are thrown out or settled out of court anyway -- *before* taking the matter of a deadbeat dad and back support into question. Yes, our justice system is fucked, but not that fucked.
Posted by: Jenni | April 13, 2004 4:51 PM
Jenni, this whole thing is laughable. His girkfriend should have really kept her mouth shut. No judge would hear this case until he pays what he owes to my kids, Barbaras kids and the older son first.
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 5:03 PM
I find it intriguing that he is so hung up on what you say on your site that he would get a lawyer. A lawyer stupid enough to suggest suing you. I agree with all the other posts, he is opening himself up for severe legal action in regards to child support. And of course he really should understand the meaning of the words slander and libel before throwing them around like a politician in a made-for-TV movie.
Posted by: ozone ferd | April 13, 2004 5:45 PM
That's just it. He doesn't understand the meaning of those words. This will go nowhere.
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 5:57 PM
Buncha bull! This guy is out of his mind and out of his league. No reply required.
Posted by: Terry | April 13, 2004 6:35 PM
I am finding this humorous, myself. I don't think he will sue you or take you to court...this means he would then have to fess up to the child support.
Also, a blog is free speech. And if he is a dead beat dad, obviously Maine is aware of it, since they took his Driver's License...So, what does it matter that the entire web now reads it? LOL! Slander? He does that himself by being a dead beat dad. I have zero sympathy for any parent who does not give a simple shit about the kids they helped produce. Whether they are male of female.
SO YOU GO KAT! He would not dare to take things to court...Just a gut feeling I have. LOL!
HUGS!
Posted by: Lani | April 13, 2004 9:55 PM
I know he won't. He can't afford it as he says. He can barely afford to live says he and his new gf. he doesn't have a jo he says, he's broke he says. He can't afford a lawyer then. I have told him no more contact unless it's through 'his lawyer'. I won't hold my breath waiting for it.
Posted by: Kat | April 13, 2004 10:05 PM
I also find it hilarious that this asshole would want to bother suing a woman with NO MONEY! Can't get blood from a fucking stone, ya know???
Like others who commented before me, I find it hard to believe that this fucknuckle was able to retain a lawyer and get him/her to read YOUR ENTIRE BLOG in such a short period of time.
And NO attorney would take a case like this on contingency...number one, you have no money, therefore, no money for the attorney, and number two, it is such BULLSHIT!!!
He's just trying to upset you, Kat. Don't let him do it. He can't legally do a damned thing to you, since HE'S the fucking deadbeat!
{{{HUGS!!!}}}
Posted by: Christine | April 13, 2004 10:24 PM
I agree with everyone else here. This is ridiculous! And like Christine said, don't let him upset you. *HUGS*
Posted by: Kirsi | April 14, 2004 3:10 AM
He didn't get a lawyer. He's just blowing smoke up his ass trying to talk big. No lawyer would take me to court over this. They'd say fater all the kids and money in back CS he owes, to go fuck himself.
Posted by: Kat | April 14, 2004 11:12 AM
HAHAAHAHAHAHA!
And he continues to prove just how big of a idiot he is ....
Posted by: squishybear | April 14, 2004 11:15 AM
Yeah I know but I thought I'd let you all see what he wants to do seeing as I bnanned him from commenting.
Posted by: Kat | April 14, 2004 11:24 AM