My Single Mom Life

*WARNING*
The following post may be offensive to people who believe in god and the power of prayer. Feel free to skip. I'm just venting.

I hate it when in a debate of any kind having to do with life or death, let's say the terry case for instance, religious people throw something at you like; "I pray you never have to deal with that or I pray that you are never faced with a situation like that. Or I'm praying for you."
Why do they do that?
I don't need prayers.
I don't need them to waste their time praying for my soul to be saved.
Why don't they pray for their own?
How is praying for my soul gonna get your point across?
It just makes me think you've gone over the edge and that you think solely from a religious standpoint rather than a factual one.

Having been raised religious, (don't get upset mom and dad) I know that prayer is a huge part of that life.
I know that at church on Sundays, the preacher reads off names of the congregation members who are sick and asks everyone to go home and pray for them. Pray that god heals them. I know that you pray before meals and pray for this and that.
I know it makes people feel like they are doing something good and worthwhile.
But praying that I never have to live through something like life or death just pisses me off.
A few years ago, my dad was very ill. We almost lost him.
His church prayed for him. My mom prayed, lots of people prayed.
I wished for doctors to fix him.
I didn't pray for it.
I hoped that some doctor would find some new treatment for him and it would help.
And a doctor did.
Now allot of people would say that's because all those people prayed for a cure and I don't begrudge them what they think or feel.
I think to each his own. If you want to believe that your prayers were answered because a new pill was found and given to him, great, think that if it helps you feel ok.
I am happy that a pill was found. My dad is still with us.

But back to praying for me to never have to live through a life or death situation.
Screw you.
Screw you for your sarcasm and that is what it was. It was being sarcastic.
"I pray that you never have to live through something like that. I pray that you never have to face something so horrible."
Screw you.
It wasn't meant in the spirit of good will or prayer. It was meant in a sarcastic way. In a I'm better than you are because I believe that god handles everything and maybe he'll take care of you or maybe he'll let you rot in hell like you deserve bitch.
That's what that shit means.

Instead of praying, do something physical. Send flowers, send a card, send a couple of bucks to an already hurting family facing losing a loved one. Cook a meal if you live close enough. Help them with their housework. Do something that can be seen and used and needed.
Maybe prayers are what the family wants if they are religious but I'm sick of people also saying that when I get my surgery, they will pray my recovery goes smoothly and I recover fast.
Don't fucking pray for me!!!
Send me a card to lift my spirits, send me an email to cheer me up. Ask me how I'm doing. Ask me if I need anything or any help if you live close enough to do something physical.
I live alone with two boys and room mate who works all the time. My sister has two kids of her own now and works all the time. I will need physical help but I will attempt to do it all on my own. You know me, stubborn as hell. I'll push myself till I fall down.
I don't need prayers. I need cheerful emails and cards and jokes and half naked men to look at...lol

Prayer is for people who don't want to get involved.