My Single Mom Life

Comment from Sam the spammer:

Good morning, Kat,

You've got it all wrong. It's not even 9a.m. and you've already risen and bashed the world. I know people can do some pretty crazy stuff that leaves an unpleasant mark on you, but helping people, for real, feels good.

The only time I ever felt hurt helping somebody is when

a) I expected them to behave like someone they weren't; or,

b) I was looking for a reward.

And until you can be downright honest about it, nothing's gonna change. I'm not arguin'....I'm statin'....with blame, nothing changes, not ever...never, won't happen.

So show a little courage, find your ulterior motive, and your secret unrealistic wish, and it'll be less likely to reoccur in another way, shape or form.

Or, you can tell me that because I'm a stranger I couldn't possibly know what I'm talking about, as if your experience hasn't already played itself out a bazillion other times somewhere else in space and time.

"Oh I'm so important and original, too complex to understand, nobody understands me, and why do people walk all over me when I try to help them?"

Secretly, some of us laugh, but we dare not show it while you don't understand because we know you take it seriously, very seriously. Enough that it would make you dump links on us. That hurt. ;-p

Hope you feel better, ya big baby!

Sam

Firstly, your blog is spam in my opinion. No free advertising for crap sites like yours. Heck, even your url says what you're up to over there.
Second, helping does feel good and it did feel good until I realized that none of it was because I was someones friend. It was because they enjoyed the free ride and as soon as that free ride ended, it was time to shit on me.
I wasn't looking for a reward or for them to be anything but the friend they told me they were.
They lied about being my friend to gain something and yes that hurts.
So go ahead and laugh if you want to Sam. You don't know what happened here and I really don't care what you fucking think about any of it.
I may be being a big baby right now, but you're a fucking asshole who's spamming my site.

Now I'd like to read Sam's site to see what kind of a life (if any) he has!!

I'm sorry you're hurt Kat. But if you're never scared or embarressed or hurt, it means you never take any chances. What would life be like without sticking your neck out sometimes. Just try and learn from your mistakes.

*big hug*

*HUGS*

I know girl. I do take chances and stick my neck out there all the time. If anyone has done more and been tested more by the powers that be, that is me...lol
I have learned a valuable lesson from this experience. I will never do this again. I will never allow myself to be walked on like this again. I don't mind helping people, people have helped me, I have helped others, I do what I can for anyone who asks me. Pete asked me to link his ebay stuff and pimp it, sure thing Pete. Why? because I can't buy his stuff but by spreading the word maybe he will sell more of it and that does help him. I have sent money when I had it to help others, I have donated to people on line, I give to the salvation army every Christmas when I see those blazing red kettles. I post free blog ads for my friends because they need to spread the word about something they need to do. Sure, no problem. I give people smokes when I'm out an about and they're digging nasty butts out of ashtrays. I give change to homeless people. I am a helpful person and I expect nothing in return but a thank you and I get a thank you all the time.
This case is very different. This was me doing everything in my power to help someone achieve some major goals and not only did I not get a thank you until it was far too late, but when I stopped helping and put my foot down about waking my kids up at all fucking hours of the night, I became in this person eyes, the biggest bitch known on the face of the planet. I got used big time. So I will keep helping people just as I always have but never in this way again. Ever.

i feel ya, girlie.

as i've just said in one of my latest posts, if i've done someone a favor and the someone didn't even care to say thanks or show any appreciations, SCREW YOU, dun ever expect a helping hand from me no more!!

Stoopid fucking spammers. {{{Kat}}}

Did Sam get you too yet? I have seen his handywork on quite a few blogs already this morning.
I'll be ok. Just working things out for myself right now instead of everyone else.
I'm gonna be selfish for a little while. ;)

I'm sorry you're hurting and so upset! People like that don't deserve you and your friendship! *humph*

*HUGS*

Sorry it happened to you too. It sucks doesn't it?

Wow, it is times like this that I am glad I am so obscure no one really knows me! I would say I can't believe the nerve.....but unfortunately, I can. People really need to keep their stupid yaps shut when they don't know what the hell they're talking about, don't they?

This Jenni just wants a link?

Drive by comments from first time commenters is great isn't it? It was a very big misunderstanding though. He and I email chatted for a bit today and figured it all out. His assumptions based on one post and my defensiveness because I was hurting.
He's actually not a bad guy. His site is still spam in my opinion though...lol

And jenni, yes, that is what I thought you were asking for because of your comment on this entry; http://www.mysinglemomlife.com/blog/archives/2005/04/hi_ho_hi_ho_off.php

where I was talking about a different Jenni. Your comment put me under the assumption that a link was being requested.
I emailed you the same response that is posted in that entry and you never wrote back so I really believed you anted a link.
That's what it sounded like to me and if I am wrong, then correct me.