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My Single Mom Life: November 2006 Archives

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November 29, 2006

She's doing good.

My friend Shell called me this afternoon cuz she was in the hospital at the same time as my mother, and said mom was doing good.
Then my sis called about an hour ago and said mom was sore but ok.
She did the whole procedure without pain meds because she hates being "out of it."
So she's home and resting and doing good.
Thanks to everyone who kept her in your thoughts today. I know how very much she appreciates it all.

Note from my mom she left in the comments:

thank you all so much for your prayers on my behalf. i am doing very well and know that God is giving positive answers to your and my prayers. please continue to pray for me and for Kat(she is my baby girl). i will probably not find out until monday that the tumor was benign. Love you all!!!!

November 28, 2006

The 29th, keep my mom in your thoughts.

She goes in for removal of the tumor and to find out of it cancerous and stuff.

I'm sick, (flu) and dealing with a lot of stuff so I apologize for my random posts and absences.

I do stand up for what I believe in.

I was at my sisters house from Thursday through Saturday and while checking my email, I noticed I had a new blogad.
I hastily approved it because I saw the word 'parenting'.
It wasn't until Sunday morning that I realized what the ad was for.
It was for UCC Parenting, that's short for United Church of Christ parenting.
I debated with myself all day Sunday on whether or not to let that ad run. It was a $30 ad. I can totally use that money to pay bills and stuff.
But at the end of the day, I canceled the ad.
I wrote an email to the advertiser explaining why I removed it, and also to the blogad people asking them to refund any monies the advertiser had already paid me.
It only ran for 2 days I think, but that was still 2 days too long in my opinion.
As much as I could use that money, it would have been totally hypocritical of me to let it run.
An atheist allowing a religious ad to run above the fold for a few weeks. I couldn't do it.

Why am I posting about this? Because someone emailed me today asking where the ad went. They thought maybe they were seeing things. They couldn't believe I let it run in the first place.
I explained exactly as I explained above, what happened.
I need to be more watchful of the ads I guess.
Just because it says parenting, doesn't mean it's actually a site about parenting.
The link led to the UCC website about getting people involved in their church for the holidays and it had tv ads on it with kids talking about church.
So there ya go. None of you were seeing things, there was an ad for a church on my site for 2 whole days.
But their money has been refunded and all is well with my conscience again.

November 27, 2006

Nothing to see here.

Move along.

Happy birthday dad!

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You may have thought I didn't see,
Or that I hadn't heard,
Life lessons that you taught to me,
But I got every word.

Perhaps you thought I missed it all,
And that we'd grow apart,
But Dad, I picked up everything,
It's written on my heart.

Without you, Dad, I wouldn't be
The woman I am today;
You built a strong foundation
No one can take away.

I've grown up with your values,
And I'm very glad I did;
So here's to you, dear father,
From your forever grateful kid.

I seem to have caught Marks's flu thingy he had last week. My head is pounding, feels like it's gonna come crashing through my skull. I have a fever, I feel icky and gross, clammy. Icky.
Poop.
But I wanted to wish my dad a happy birthday. I know I'm always late doing birthdays, it's just something I seem to mess up on every year.
I need to go back to bed now.
Later days.

November 26, 2006

Three things tag

3 Things that scare me:
1. spiders
2. stupid people
3. bad music

3 People who make me laugh:
1. my sons
2. George Carlin
3. Jerm

3 Things I love:
1. music
2. reading
3. baking

3 Things I hate:
1. most popular music of today
2. spiders
3. stupid people

3 Things I don’t understand:
1. stupid people
2. insurance
3. living beyond your means

3 Things on my desk:
1. pen cup
2. pain diary
3. router

3 Things I'm doing right now:
1. blogging
2. making dinner
3. getting up early tomorrow

3 Things I want to do before I die:
1. get back in shape
2. travel around the world
3. get out of debt

3 Things I can do:
1. make jewelry
2. listen
3. bake

3 Things I can’t do:
1. get along with most people
2. any math beyond algebra I
3. put on my left sock

3 Things I think you should listen to:
1. anything by the Ramones
2. anything by TOOL
3. anything by Lamb of God

3 Things you should never listen to:
1. drama whores
2. most pop music
3. people who think the world revolves around them (Kim, we think so much alike!)

3 Things I’d like to learn:
1. patience
2. photoshop cs
3. more crafty type things

3 Favorite foods:
1. pizza
2. chicken
3. cheesecake

3 Beverages I drink regularly:
1. diet pepsi
2. diet pepsi
3. diet pepsi

3 Shows I watched as a kid:
1. The Jeffersons
2. Little House on the Prairie
3. Munsters

3 People I’m tagging:
1. You
2. You
3. You

Just like Kim, I'm not tagging specific people. Do it if you want and then comment back to me letting me know you did.

Miss me?

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The boys and I spent Thanksgiving at my sisters house babysitting the girls so sis and hubby could get away for a few days.
They loved the turkey and cranberry sauce and were so much fun to be around.
But I forgot how tiring toddlers are.
My boys are all grown up now so I must have forgotten all the energy that toddlers have.
I will not ever forget that again.
I'm not complaining, I had a great time with them, I love being around them and having all that fun, but boy oh boy, did they wear me out.
Mark and Sebastian were exhausted too.

In and out of the ball pit, up and down off my lap, I have poop, I need to go potty, I want to brush my teeth, I don't want to go to bed.
Tons of energy.
We took them to the playground and let them play on the slides that oops, were wet, but they didn't care, they had a blast.

They played on the swings and climbed the "castle".


They wanted to go swimming in the pool but it was freezing water. They tried anyway and giggled like crazy touching their toes in the ice cold water.

They played on their own slide and drove their little car around the back porch.


We all had a really good time, the boys playing World of Warcraft while they napped or slept, me zoning out in front of the cable tv.
I don't have cable at my house and I'm actually really glad about that right now.
I spent more time clicking through 98 channels than I did watching any one show. I can't handle that many choices...lol
Sis and hubby came home a day early and we were in our own house last night.

Then my friend Tina got in touch and asked me to head out with everyone last night because I missed the majority of get togethers during the week.
So we headed out the punk club to meet up with everybody. It was crazy packed in there last night, wall to wall people.
They played great music, people danced, people sweat.
Ewwgie, it was so gross. This one guy had a t-shirt on and a button up shirt over it, and had sweat through both of them. It was nasty. He was so wet, his shirts were glistening. Ick.

I was sitting there, people watching, talking to our group, and this 19 year old girl comes up to cool off in front of the giant fan that was next to me, and grabbed my hair.
Started raving about how pretty it is and then she freaked out.
"You have so much energy! I have to read you!"
She placed her fingers on my palms and started saying all kinds of stuff. I wasn't looking at her, made no eye contact, told her nothing. She couldn't see my face because my hair was in the way.
She said; "You're a mom of 2 kids, both boys, you've been doing it alone for many years. You just had a major surgery not long ago, it was your back! Your back!!! You are so far from spiritual, one could say you have no belief in any gods at all. You should though. You carry the weight of the world on yourself. You're very giving and caring, people take advantage of that. You're very intuitive, people, lots of people come to you for advice, they trust you but you don't trust them. You have very few people you consider friends and you are very careful what you say to anyone, including your friends. You were born in March, you have this same gift I have but you haven't figured that out yet but that's why people come to you, talk to you. They see it in you, they know what you can do. You're the most mature person of everyone you hang around with. Not just because you are older, but because you can see things, you know things, you stay quiet because of that. You don't think people see you for who you are. You are an amazing person, you have gifts, high intelligence, it turns some people away, you tend to frighten people because you see right through them. They don't like being seen for who they are so they stay away from you. You worry about bills and money all the time, but you need to stop that because your day is coming soon. You will be able to stop worrying. Your friends love you for who you are inside and out, they can see you, but you question yourself all the time, you don't have as much faith in yourself as your friends do. Your family is extremely important to you, you would not hesitate to lay down your life for your sons or your sister. She loves you and wants the best for you but comes across hard sometimes. You both are hard and blunt to each other but it's because you love each other so much, you say what you are thinking without hesitating. You need to tune your gift."

Freaky huh?

November 22, 2006

Happy turkey day 2006!

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I don't have much to say right now, but wanted to wish everyone a happy holiday.

November 21, 2006

What's done is done.

Private entry is up.

Blah de fucky fuck.

I'm in one of those moods, maybe a psyche eval is a good thing. ;)
One of my biggest problems is my don't give a fuck attitude.
While I implement it 98% of the day, it's the other 2% that can send me on a tailspin into either rage or stress mode.
I'm halfway between rage and stress right now. I can feel it.
I'm going back and forth between shooting daggers and wanting to just run away.

I was thinking about what PMDoc said yesterday. "Most people with chronic pain on meds a long time go into depression. You seem fine, able to hold conversations, don't have the typical appearance and behavior of someone who is severely depressed. But I want to increase the strength of your meds because they are obviously not helping you like they should."

Um, won't that possibly cause me to go into depression? Is that the goal? Hrm.

He discussed other pain management options like nerve blocker shots. Said he didn't believe those would work for me.
Discussed that new surgical implant device. It's basically an internal tens unit. Didn't think that would work for me either.
So we'll just up the strength of your oral meds.
Yippee!
Not.
I'm so tired of medication. I'm tired of the loopy fog I get in sometimes. I'm tired of having to take meds with me everywhere I go to stay on schedule and not be hurting and have to take twice as much later to chase pain away.
I'm tired of having to ask stupid questions like I did yesterday.
Thursday through Sunday, the boys and I will be at my sisters house babysitting my nieces while they have a mini-vacation.
I had to ask my sister how close the nearest pharmacy is to her house because I have to get my meds on Friday and I'll be at her house. I can't get them early because of insurance restrictions. (gay)
Why do I have to do dumb shit like that? Why can't my body just heal miraculously and let me pain free?

Why does he think I'll be on meds the rest of my life?
Because I still have too much nerve damage he doesn't think will ever go away. The surgery corrected the spine and took away probably 75% of the pain, it's the remaining 25% that is still here and causing issues.
I knew going in that surgery wasn't going to be a cure all, but I had hoped that I'd be at at least tolerable pain. Something a few Tylenol could handle.
Nope. Not even close.
I tried that.
I went through a 100 count bottle of Tylenol in 1 day. What's that? Only supposed to take 8 in a 24 hour period? I know that but they weren't helping and that's when I called the doc crying and pleading for help.

And ya know what else? This is god damn Florida. Why the fuck was it 30 degrees last night and barely 50 this morning?
I need warmth dammit! This cold shit isn't helping the pain level at all. My arthritis is screaming.
Fuck! I'm 36 years old with god damn arthritis!
This is the shit that pisses me off. I'm not depressed. I'm angry.
Think the psyche person will want to deal with that shit? I hope whoever it is is used to hearing the word fuck cuz they're certainly gonna hear it from me.
I'm fucking angry about shit.
Really fucking angry.

November 20, 2006

I am completely stressed the fuck out.

Mark is sick still, Sebastian has become the cranky teen from hell, the kid next door, his mom may die, my mom has a tumor, I saw my new pain doc today and oh goodie! Looks like I'll be on meds the rest of my life and I get to have a psyche evaluation because people with chronic pain on medication for as many years as I have been, are thisclose to slitting their wrists. He says I appear to be fine, don't look the standard depressed or unable to hold a conversation like most severely depressed people.
Also, he's increasing the strength of my meds because it's obviously not working as well as they should.
His office staff is even more incompetent in person than they are on the phone. At least he knows what the hell he's doing or appears to know.

I also don't understand how people can be complete fucking morons.
Im not even gonna get into that one, it's so fucking ridiculous anyway.

Slightly psychotic.

I have a ton of shit going on. Ton.
I will attempt to elaborate when I get home.
Have to go to docs and then someplace else today as well.
Later days.

November 19, 2006

If I catch it, he's gonna feel worse than he already does.*

Mark has been off and on asleep all day long. Currently, he's sound asleep in my bed.
I will get sick because I let him sleep in there. I just know it.
I let him sleep in there because my room is pitch black and chilly, very quiet.
His head is killing him he says, and no amount of Tylenol or Nyquil is helping him.
I feel so bad for him, he looks terrible when he's sick. He has no voice right now either. Poor kiddo.

Dinner** is late this evening. So much going on around here the last few days.
My neighbor is very sick, in the hospital sick.
Her entire body was swollen yesterday and scalding hot to the touch.
I told her to get to the hospital ASAP. That was at 2pm. They didn't take her till almost 7pm and just as Tina and I were getting ready to head out last night, the kid next door*** comes over and wants to know if he can spend the night.
I had to turn him down.
I do feel bad about that.
I had a full house already. Tina and her son Norman were here and spending the night, Mark was sick, Tina and I were leaving, which left Sebastian in charge of Norman for the night if Mark was too sick to stay awake which he was.

His mom has a massive infection, probably sepsis, there's an infection around her heart and lungs. She's on breathing machines and monitors.
He's very scared and worried about his mom.
He just came in like 2 minutes ago from visiting her tonight, he just told me all the new information.
Yesterday, they had no idea what was wrong other than an infection.
As much as their family has problems, keep his mom in your thoughts please. Her name is Letty and she is the world to this little boy.


Ok, time to go check on our dinner.
Later days.

*Kidding people.
**Recipe for cheesy chicken stuff

In bottom of 9x13 pan, place about 4-5 boneless/skinless chicken breasts whole or diced,. I do diced, it goes farther.
Cover that with 2 cans cream of chicken or cream of mushroom or cream of celery soup.
Cover that with one whole package of shredded mozzarella cheese.
Cover that with one whole box of stove top stuffing.
Cover with foil and bake at 350 degrees for 50-60 minutes taking the foil off for the last 10 to brown the stuffing.


*** Yes, that little boy from next door.

Holy schmolies it was packed in there last night.

But good times were had. No pics though. I was too busy people watching anyway. Interesting crowd.
You know what kills me?
The club plays like all these old 80's songs, punk/mainstream pop from the era etc. All these young people were like oh my god! I love this song!
Kinda funny.
It amuses me that some of them heard the song for the first time like a few months ago at that club or somewhere else. I grew up with it, lived it. It's kinda weird in a way.
But, I was definitely not the oldest one there last night. I saw wrinkles.

Today will be spent at home taking care of a sicko. I think Mark has the flu or some other nasty type thing. It started Friday with him complaining of a headache and then yesterday when he came home, it was all I really don't feel well. By the time we left to go out, he was just super tired and needing sleep.
We have lots of Nyquil and have no plans. He'll get plenty of rest.


My friend Terry sent me a link to a petition and I signed it. 100% for it.
Don't Pay O.J.
How ballsy is he huh? If I did it, this is how I would have done it. It's a total slap in the face not only to the Browns and Goldman's for him to write a book in hopes of profit, but to his children.
Did he ever stop and think about the effect he has on his kids?
In the book, he writes how he would have killed their mother if he had done it, and from the news reports on the book, it's very detailed, like exquisite detail, of how he would have killed their mother.
We all know O.J. did it, too bad the police bungled the investigation and evidence, he'd be behind bars right now.
Don't give this man a penny. He has no intention of paying what he owes to the families, this is all about him wanting more time in the spotlight, needs the attention.
I won't be reading it, even from the library.
He should not benefit from the crimes he did commit.

November 18, 2006

Photo Hunters #4

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Please keep my mom in your thoughts.

My mom sent me this email yesterday;

HI ALL
I JUST RECIEVED SOME BAD NEWS FROM MY BIOPSY, I HAVE A PHYLLODES TUMOR IN MY RIGHT BREAST AND WILL HAVE TO HAVE SURGERY TO HAVE IT REMOVED IT HAS A MALIGNANT POTENTIAL. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL INFORMED AS SOON AS I KNOW WHAT WILL TAKE PLACE AND WHEN. PLEASE PRAY FOR ME I AM VERY NERVOUS BUT I TRUST GOD WITH MY LIFE FOREVER I HAVE TO DO WHATEVER IT TAKES TO GET RID OF THIS. PRAY FOR GEORGE HE IS WORRIED AS WELL. I WILL KEEP YOU ALL POSTED.

Please keep my mom in your thoughts and prayers, if you pray.
I didn't even know she was going in for a biopsy, but that's my mom, strong.

We love you mom, you will be ok. I have trust in the doctors and in science. They know what they are doing and will see you through this.
And with the love and support of your family, you'll stay just as strong as you always have been.

November 17, 2006

Poopah.

It's a very quiet day, still no call back though.
Like I was actually expecting one./sarcasm>
Pshaw!

I'm just hanging out, bored, waiting for deposits to go through so I can be un-broke.
It takes too long in my opinion. And another thing I don't understand, why do they wait till the middle of the night to initiate direct deposits? Why not do them during normal banking hours? It would make much more sense.
Right?

The teens will be leaving me tonight to go babysit for my sister. I'll probably go find a movie to watch and chill out by myself all night unless something comes up which it probably won't.
Everyone has plans for tomorrow night.
Either some country bar or a retro/altern/punk club.
Guess which one I'm shooting for?

I would go to the country bar if that's where everyone wanted to go. I'd buy some earplugs and sit as far away from the speakers and dance floor as possible.
Line dancing kills me. Same dance, every song, with only a slight variation in steps. An extra hand clap here, or toe step there, a heel kick here. Highly amusing to watch cuz they all think they are like stars on Solid Gold or American Bandstand ya know?
"Woo hoo! We're all in perfect sync y'all! We rock!"

I have to sit far away or else I start laughing uncontrollably and inevitably, end up getting very loud. I have also jumped up from my chair in the past, and just started dancing all crazy and fucking up the beauty of the line dance. I can't help it. I think country music plus line dancing, makes my brain do something funky and I have to either yell or do something stupid to make the bad pains stop.
I physically cringe when I hear country music.
It's not just that I hate it, I physically hurt from it. Like my stomach gets all knotted and upset, painful.
Maybe it's psychosomatic, the physical pains, but I swear it happens.
I have learned to tune it out when riding in cars with people, I can focus on the passing scenery, but in a club, I'm trapped and with the line dancing visuals, I feel myself getting sick and pained.

Ya think if I explain this to the few people that want to go there, they'll take pity on me and go to the other place? ;)

Later days

November 16, 2006

Ok, let me try and explain.

My appointment with Doc M. was on the 1st, he told me to call the pain management doc and get set up with him. We will call the pain guy PMDoc from now on.
So I get home from Doc M. and call the PMDoc. They tell me they need my records faxed to them before they can schedule an appointment. I call FSI (Doc M.'s old office) and tell them I need my records faxed to PMDoc. They say ok.
Few days later, I call PMDoc back to see if they have them yet. No. I call FSI back, they tell me I have to sign another release because they lost the last one. They mail it to me, I sign it and mail it back.
Few days later, I call PMDoc back and ask if they have them yet. No. I call FSI back, they swear they faxed them but will fax them again.
In the mean time, I'm out of medication and hurting so I call Doc M. They can't refill my script because they referred me out to PMDoc.
Basically, I'm screwed at this point.
I call FSI again, they swear they did it, will do it again.
I call PMDoc back, they say they have had a file sitting there for 2 weeks and didn't know what to do with it, were going to throw it out on Friday (tomorrow). I say no! My file! I've been calling almost daily for the last 3 weeks to schedule an appointment and people keep telling me they a) have no faxes, b) that someone will call me back about an appointment and c) they will call Doc M. about meds.
No one has ever called me back!
We promise that someone will call you back.
I waited all fucking day today, third day in a row someone promised to call me back.
At 3:30, I blew a gasket.
Bad.
I call PMDoc back and demand to speak to someone now, no, I will not leave my number again so someone can call me back, now!
I hold, I tell them the whole sordid situation and ask what the hell am I supposed to do? I've now been out of pain meds for days, I can barely frigging walk, this is insane.
The lady apologizes and tells me they have been busy.
Fine, you're busy, but don't fucking tell me you're going to call me back 3 days in a row, and then not do it.
That tends to piss me off and I'm willing to bet, anyone would be pissed off.
It wasn't my idea to be referred to your office, I have no say in this matter. I have done everything all the various offices asked me to do and no one has done jack fucking shit for me except lie and tell me they will call me back. I'm in fucking pain and I'm not happy.
She apologizes, tells me she's going to call Doc M. and have them call in a script because it was a mess up with paperwork and not my fault. She will call me right back.
She finally called me right back. The first person in 3 weeks to actually call me.
She called Doc M. and had them call in a script and then she asked me some various questions about MRIs and xrays and shit like that. Gave me a tentative appointment for Monday. Not totally sure about that she said. She swears she'll call me back tomorrow and confirm an appointment.

The teens and I just got back from a long walk to CVS and the grocery store. They called it into the far away pharmacy. I don't really care at the moment. I am slowly getting relieved from the pain I've been in for days now and will probably be in bed early.

If it wasn't for bad luck, I'd really have no luck at all.
Later days.

Seriously ready to kill.

We'll call you right back.
Uh huh. Fucking oh my god.
When I finally can calm down a little, I'll explain exactly how absurd and fucked up this incompetence is and you guys will all be like; Kat, get a fucking gun and shoot them all, take them out, they don't deserve to live.

9 months post op today

and the incompetence continues.
I wish I was fully healed just so I could stop playing these stupid office tag games with people who obviously don't know how to take a message, pass a message on, or better yet, treat people like human beings.
My patience has worn very, very thin, and I fear by the time I actually get into the pain management docs office, I'll be ready to tear someone apart limb from limb.
It's making me insane.
Do not tell me that you will call me back in 1 hour. I'm sitting at home playing on my computer all day. It has a clock. I know when an hour, or 3 has passed.
Do not tell me that someone will call me right back. Right back means within 15 minutes in my book, definitely not longer than 20.

I can't believe people in this country are clamoring for national health care.
Are you people fucking crazy?!
It's a system full of ineptitude as it is, medicaid/medicare, and you want the government to take care of all of us?! Are you high?!
It took 5 years people, 5 fucking years to get seen and treated by a surgeon and now, I'm having the red tape bullshit all over again.
I have no patience anymore. It was wasted on the 5 year waiting list. This 3 weeks of red tape bullshit is enough to send me over the edge. I'm babbling like a lunatic every time the phone rings now.
"Is it them? Have they fixed/faxed/figured it out yet?!"
No, of course fucking not.
I really can't take much more of this shit. Just get your damn shit together. Why is the patient making all the phone calls? Why is the patient faxing everybody? Why is the patient getting records and making copies of records to give to other offices when the patient has signed release form after fucking release form and provided the offices with all the necessary information in triplicate, possibly even quadruplicate?!?!

I need a drink, a Valium, and another drink. Possibly 10.

November 15, 2006

Advertisers on my site.

Some of you may have noticed an ad that takes over my page.
It's not spyware.
It is an ad that I get paid to run, it's called an interstitial ad. It will only run once per click, per person, per day. If you visit my page again today, it will not run again.
I have a lot of paid advertisers and I don't mind the interstitials.

I love my advertisers. They help pay my bills for my net service and a few other extras like the teens Runescape account etc.
I apologize if the ad made anyone worry that they had spyware on their computer, or that my site contained spyware and was dumping it onto your computer.

It's another blah de blah kinda day.

There's nothing much going on around here. Went and did some grocery shopping, doing laundry and dishes and that's about it.
Boring.
My life is boring...lol

Oh, finally got FSI to fax my records over and I'm now waiting for the pain management place to call me back about an appointment.
Yay!

Later days.

November 14, 2006

Inside a soldier's mind


Written by my cousin, Crowell Christopher S SGT 303rd MI BN CASE, serving his 2nd term in Iraq.

I see my mother clearly sob,
Meek and mild of manner,
Humble home and kitchen hob,
Her private country manor.

I see her do her household chores,
And teach us all to pray,
Help us with our ups and downs,
And guide us on our way.

I see her warm and gentle smile,
The greyness in her hair,
Sitting in her favourite chair,
Wishing I was there.

I see her soft and kindly ways,
Should I come home in glory,
Sit with her in twilight days,
Relate to her my story.

I awake.

Dawn breaks, my mind aches,
Home thoughts from abroad,
I feel a dagger in my heart,
Cutting out the inner part
That harbours deep emotion,
It carves the memories into slices
And serves-up deep devotion.

Allegiance to my two great loves,
My family and my country.
Decisions I have had to take,
I cannot turn my back,
One foot in my homeland,
The other in Iraq.

While comrades' rest in peaceful sleep,
I take my daily mental leap,
My weapon I have set aside,
To pen some thoughts upon my stride,
Through God forsaken countryside.

I hope that when this war is won,
A pen and scribe will be my gun,
Then maybe I can do my part,
Deliver reason from the heart.

In scouring sandy no-man's land,
I must consider sleight of hand,
Is this where we were meant to be,
So long after victory?

The din of rapid rifle rattle,
Constantly reminds of battle,
Mind immersed in deep reflection,
Know this war has caused reaction,
Far beyond the fighting faction.

But we are soldiers, faithful servants,
Give us orders, we observe them.
The men I lead,
Must feel the need,
To see their duty rendered,
Death before dishonour-still,
Remains their loyal tender.

We lost a comrade yesterday,
A bullet in the head,
From out of nowhere sniper fire,
In minutes he was dead.

Our thoughts must go to soldiers' homes,
Those left lost and weeping,
The one who dies is laid to rest,
The others' wounds keep bleeding.

It's this that burns us up inside,
We're still the proud, the brave,
But sometimes feel we're treated more,
Like politicians' slaves.

Not for us the sweet delights,
Of nomination platform,
We're here to serve, protect the rights,
Our fathers fought and died for.

But fact remains, we can't ignore,
The price of lives for hire,
Is getting steeper all the time,
In Middle-Eastern mire.

My valiant band of brothers stir,
For combat now, we must prepare,
But in the course of your demands,
Remember if you can,
The 'Semper Fi' in all who lie,
In battlefields tonight,
To offer up their lives and die,
Their homelands to protect.

And we will soldier on-we must,
To face our mortal foe,
Morale is high, in God We Trust,
We bring our prayers to heaven,
And hope that God still hears our plea,
Remember 9-11.

So rest my kind and gentle mother,
Life's not how it seems,
Keep the home fires burning bright,
I'll see you in my dreams.

November 13, 2006

It's obvious I need to go up there

and get the damn files myself again.
I have now requested 3 times for my medical records to be faxed to the pain management doctors office. They still don't have them.
This is turning into a real problem because once referred to a new doctor, my doctor can't refill medications anymore because a new doctor has basically been assigned.
Yeah, problem.
Kat no happy.

The highlight of my whole day so far,

has been this mornings death.
I woke up to see my gourami died.
I scooped it from the tank and dumped it in the toilet.
Then I had to pee.
I was faced with the following dilemma;
Do I flush the fish alone and send it on a proper fish burial?
Or do I just go pee and save myself some water which inevitably, saves me money on my water bill?
Take your guesses as to what I did.
3
2
1

I went pee of course!
I'm all about saving money.

Yup, exciting fucking Monday 'round these parts.

Oh one more thing.
I'm terribly hungry but absolutely nothing looks good.
I hate that.
Later days.

November 12, 2006

Oh my head hurts.

Last night was super fun, oh my god. Haha
I had about 3-4 drinks and my tolerance is incredible after all these years of medication, so I don't get drunk, not even buzzed. Kind of a waste but eh, it's more a social thing these days.
But my head hurts because every single person who got a different kind of drink, Jolly Rancher shots, red bull and vodka, something called a red death, etc etc, I was asked to taste it.
Not hey Kat, taste this cuz you'll like it, but hey Kat, do you think they made this too weak or too strong...lol
Ok, the jolly rancher was to taste because I had never had one, not bad. The game face, dear lord, icky. You certainly do make a game face after tasting that shit.
There was an ass paddle that made it's mark on nearly every single person there. hah
And a guy woke up this morning wanting to know why his ass crack was sticky.
Gee, could it have been the hot candle wax you requested poured down there, or perhaps it was the whip cream?

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November 11, 2006

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I'm sooo excited!

Going out tonight for some fun, I have a reliable ride this time...
My friend Tina is coming down and my boys are gonna babysit her son so we can go out tonight and play with other grown ups.

The boys and I have been cleaning the house like we do every Saturday morning, I love the smell of a clean house.
Dryer is going on the last load of clothes, need to take a shower and stuff. They will be here by 2pm to hang out and stuff before we leave tonight. It's better this way with younger kids rather than just run in, drop them off and run.
This will give them all a chance to warm up to each other again. Last time we all saw each other was the BBQ about a month ago I think it was.
I need to go buy something for dinner too. I don't know what yet, don't know what her son likes to eat. My boys will eat anything I put in front of them so they don't really care.

I hope you're all having a great weekend!

November 10, 2006

Happy birthday Mom!

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Happy birthday, Mom!
I hope everyone can see,
What a great mom you’ve always been,
And how much you mean to me.

I always think about you,
In times both good and bad,
For the things you taught are with me,
In happy times and sad.

So on this day I wish you joy,
Just like you pass around.
May all your good times multiply,
And happiness abound.

November 9, 2006

Cough please.

We ventured all over the city practically to get to the docs. It's not very far, but the bus takes the scenic route through Siesta Key which was kinda nice today.
Another gorgeous day here.
We get to the docs and as we're finding his office, the boys ask specifically what we're doing here.
Me: "Well, to get Mark's back looked at for one, and you both need physicals."
Them: "What kind of physical?"
Me: "Well the kind of physical boys at your age have to do. Blood check, urine, blood pressure, ball check, height, weight, etc."
Them: "Whoah. Did you just say ball check?!"
Me: "Yes, I said ball check, as in turn your head and cough."
Their faces went white.

We went in and they were weighed and measured, blood pressure checked, we have to go to a lab and have hemoglobins and urine tested, and then the doc comes in and takes a turn with each of them.
Sebastian went first.
He listened to his heart and lungs, checked his ears and throat, tested his reflexes and then said lay down, I need to check your manhood.
Sebastian: "What?!"
Sebastian had gone so red in the face, it was near purple in color. He giggled hysterically which made Mark giggle which made me giggle.
Then it was Mark's turn and he went through all the same but when it was time to check his manhood, he went white. Rather than be embarrassed, he was mortified someone was touching his balls.
Sebastian was still giggling. Uncontrollably. You would have thought I had taken a couple of 4 year olds to a bra store the way the two of them laughed about all of this.
The doctor checked Mark for scoliosis, said he had a nice straight spine. *phew*
But he did say he's been seeing a lot of kids with backaches this year since the beginning of school. He wrote Mark a note and that was that.

We went out and caught the bus towards home and stopped at McDonald's because we were starving, and I got a happy meal.
They come with toys from the new movie Flushed Away.

It's a compass. I'll never get lost again.

So far, no news.

The problem with the school thing, is they have that zero tolerance policy. That policy says that any type of discrimination against anyone, is punishable by suspension from school or wherever the discrimination took place. In this case, the bus.
I haven't heard anything yet so I'm hoping the bus driver was just yelling he was gonna throw kids off the bus and didn't actually do it.
He's done that before.
We shall wait and see.

Today the boys are home though because they have a doctors appointment at 12:30.
Right in the middle of their school day and they both go to two different schools so it's much easier to just keep them home than it is to send them and try to round them up in like 3 hours and try to get to the appointment on time.
Basic physicals and stuff, check out Mark's back.
He came home yesterday complaining about it heavily. He was doubled over and teary.
I hope it's nothing too serious.
If it's his backpack causing that pain from all the books they make him carry to and from school, maybe the doc will write him a note so he doesn't have to.
I have my list of questions ready. Scoliosis can be genetic so, check him out for that too.

Ok, off to shower and get things ready to go in a few hours.
Later days.

November 8, 2006

Oy fucking vey.

I debated putting this here or privately.

Sebastian just came home from school, rode the bus home.
He got in a fight with another kid on the bus.
That kid called Sebastian buck tooth. He takes great offense to it because his teeth do need braces but the dentist has said we need to wait till all his baby teeth fall out and he has like 7-8 more to go. I know, weird at his age.
Here's where the controversy and HUGE problem comes in.
There is a rumor that the boy he got into the fight with is gay and has a picture of a naked man taped inside his binder.
Sebastian ran with it.
The kid punched Sebastian, called him buck tooth, Sebastian punched the kid and said "Well at least I don't have naked guys in my notebook you fag!"

Holy shit.
The kid who started the fight is being thrown off the bus. Not Sebastian.
I see a massive problem possibly headed my way.
If this kid does get thrown off the bus and goes home and his parents are pissed at him and he tells them why he got thrown off the bus and he really is gay, what Sebastian did may be considered a hate crime. That kids parents may call the school or the police, or both, and Sebastian may be in a world of trouble.

When he finished telling me the events, I tore into him. He was all proud of himself that he defended himself in a fight, the kid punched him in the face. He punched the kid in the stomach while the both of them hurled insults at each other.
He's grounded from like everything. No PS2, no computer, no outside, nothing.
I let him know what he did was so very fucking wrong. You can't say things like that. You can't attack someone's sexuality even in self defense. You just can't attack gay people. Period.
He knows that gays have rights and that they are just like the rest of us and deserve the same treatment as we all do, but for some reason, he took a rumor he heard and went with it.
This upsets me so much.
I know I've raised him better than this. I'm mortified he did this.
I honestly don't even know what to do if legal action is taken.
Ugh.

It was a beautiful morning for my walk.

I have to go out walking everyday, I try to do at least a mile every single day, sometimes I end up doing more than that like yesterday. Purely out of necessity in those cases.
So I went for my walk and it was really gorgeous out there today, about 70 degrees, sun shining, slight breeze. Perfect day.
I went to 7-11 on my way back to get a soda and something to eat, and shock of all shocks, they hired a hottie.
When do you ever see someone even remotely good looking working at 7-11?
Never I tell ya! Well at least not around here.
He was cute. Didn't catch his name even though he had a name tag on, I was too busy trying not to act stupid.
By that I mean, don't have him ring up the money orders I needed and then try to pay with a debit card like last time. They don't do that and they get mad when you try to do that. So I went to the ATM and got the needed funds out and when I went in, the place was dead, but as soon as I'm ready to pay and make him busy doing money orders, tons of people. So I just let everyone else go before me, trying to be nice.
I explained to this old man, I had to get money orders and stuff, he could go first. He's all "no no, you go ahead."
Then when it took awhile, he started grunting and shooting me looks. Ass. I told you to go first. Stupid people.
Now I'm back home and chillin', have some things to get ready to mail and then go shopping later on with the boys when they get home from school.
Later days.

November 7, 2006

Lack of a penis.

After yesterdays fiasco with technology at Walgreen's, the nurse Cindy finally just called it in to CVS which is 1 mile away. I just got back from a 2 mile walk to and from CVS to get my meds, in the rain.
On my way back, I see this gigantor truck headed my way on my little two lane street. It's one of those monster trucks.
If I had not been trying desperately to not get run over, I would have snapped a pic of it with my cell phone.
I swear it was like 8ft off the ground.
I had to jump in the ditch to avoid getting run over, he refused to move over even a little bit to avoid hitting me and nothing was coming in the other lane.
As he passes me, he had the nerve to toot his horn at me and it played that stupid Dixie song.
Yeah, he 's so making up for something.
You know the saying, big truck, small penis.

After I let my meds kick in a little bit, I'm gonna go back out and vote. At least the voting place isn't too far away. It's at the church around the corner.
I'm thinking of wearing a slightly offensive t-shirt. I only step foot in a church when I go to vote so I figure I should just have some fun with it.
Later days.

November 6, 2006

I have to wonder sometimes, why me?

But I know it's not just me, I know everybody got the short stick today.
My doctors office had been trying to call Walgreens all day to get my script refilled, couldn't get through.
I called, couldn't get through.
I went to the website, put in my zip code, called all 9 stores listed in my zip code and got the exact same "nah nah" busy sound on all lines except one.
That store was like oh my god, how weird, let me try.
That manager tried and was like wow, how weird, I guess the system is down.
So yeah, the system is down at 8 of 9 stores.
The only store available to help me was the one the farthest from my house. No dice.
So now I sit and lay, in pain, waiting for systems to come back up.
Yay for technology.

PDF addon for FF 2.0 is hot.

The PDF addon lets you choose how you view PDF files. You can download them, view them in Adobe or as HTML. I hate PDF files. I hate the way they work, look, run. Hate them.
Having the option automatically to view as HTML is hot.

November 5, 2006

Moan, piss, whine.

I have had a massive migraine like all day. I don't know what brought it on or anything, it just hit me like a brick to the head.
Usually, I can figure out the cause, too much sugar, too much carbs, too little sleep. Not this time. I've avoided sugar the last few days, haven't had any breads or pastas and I slept amazing last night. Probably the first full night I've had in months.
I feel like I really got hit with a brick to the head.
It sucks.
But anyway, I had started out the day on this I'm gonna get a whole lotta stuff done kick, and ended up off and on the couch instead.
So anyway, yeah, blah poopy.

Firefox 2.0 again!

Kim made a post about all kinds of new features for FF 2.0 so I went and checked it out and ooooh! All kinds of goodies.
I am so loving the gmail notifier and the gmail skins rocks, and the weather addon rules.
Thanks Kim!

November 4, 2006

Firefox 2.0 kicks ass!

Firefox 2.0 is out and it's awesome.
It has a built in spell checker which took me a few seconds to figure out it's use, but now I'm so loving it.
And, instead of opening links in a new window, it opens them in tabs that can be closed with a single click of an x.

If you haven't already switched to Firefox, now is the time to do so.

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Netflix.

So under my doctors new rules, it looks like I'll be spending more time at home. Instead of 12 months to freedom, it's now 18 months and back in the brace. I hate going out in that thing so looks like my movie hobby will continue.
I signed up for Netflix, $10.oo per month, unlimited. It's far cheaper than what I was spending on renting movies with already. At movie gallery, rentals are $5.99 each and I have been renting probably about 10 a month so yeah, way cheaper.
Anyway, I need movies for my queue.
Tell me what to put on there that I simply must see and/or add me to your Netflix friends list using my email address, mysinglemomlifeATgmail.com so we can see each others queues and recommend stuff to each other etc.

Grassy ass.

November 3, 2006

Crap.

I meant to just lay down on the couch for an hour to watch Passions and I fell asleep and woke up at5pm.
And I slept funny, like on my right arm because now it hurts.
Ugh.

Advertiser Friday.

I love my advertisers, they help pay the bills baby, so do me a favor, check them out. Some of them are pretty cool.

November 2, 2006

“A Soldier’s Reflection”

If I could see your face

Just one more time
to crystallize your beauty

In my mind
to freeze the smile

That wars erase
and rob the Memories

Of your face

for what I see

Is death and hate
the twisted thoughts

Hostile hands of fate
The mindless mores

Motivate to maim
for senseless cries

Of victory to proclaim

That I could hear

The softness of your cry
The thought that war

Had sentenced me to die
To hear your sobs

See teardrops fall
reminders that

Love transcended all

For what I hear

Voices raised in pain
Another death

Considered someone's gain
A baby's cry

A mother's screams
The sounds that echo

In my dreams

If I could smell

The scent of your skin
To comfort my emotions

From deep within
Autumn leaves fall

Without a sound
The scented breeze

Guides them to the ground

For what I smell

Comes from the fray

Of burnt-out homes

Bodies in decay
The stench of human flesh

Engulfed in flame

The smell that drives

A man's mind insane

If I could touch

My son’s heart
to give him hope

While we're apart
and feel his childlike

Hand in mine
an eternal imprint

On my mind

For I have touched

The hand of death
And sensed the coldness

Of its breath
I have felt it

Terrorize this land
And stalk the dunes

Of desert sand

If I could taste

The turkey breast
that's basted in

Your sweet caress
and savor deep

Within my soul
the joys of life

I've put on hold

For what I taste

Is stale and sour
the fear of death

From hour to hour
the bitter sweet

Of love and pain
Please tell me that

It’s not in vain

Written by: Crowell Christopher S SGT 303rd MI BN CASE
My cousin, serving his second term in Iraq.

Yeah so, I hate people.

Ever since being out of work for what seems like a god damn eternity now, I have slowly started to hate people. Not all people mind you, just really stupid ones.
I mean, I've always been annoyed with dumb people in general, but over the last 5+ years, the annoyance has grown to full blown hatred and I often catch myself before I say something out loud to the offending dumb ass.
I didn't catch myself just now. I let it go with full on snark and attitude and the tone, oh my the tone, of the message I just left for the retards in the medical records at my old doctors office.
I am still pissed off about yesterdays events, the records weren't ready, they weren't where I was told to go, spent 20 minutes driving around looking for a building number that doesn't exist before we finally just had to leave and try to get to my real appointment on time.
Pissed I tell ya.
I call them just a few minutes ago and tell them; "I need my records faxed to two different offices now. I've signed the release already, it's in there somewhere or not, yesterday you couldn't seem to find it or my records. But here's what needs to be happening right now, you need to fax my records, not films, to (727)xxx-xxxx, Dr. M's new office, he needs those, those are his records. Then you need to fax my records to (941)xxx-xxxx, Dr. F's office who will be in charge of pain management. I am not coming up there again just so you can tell me they aren't ready to go, that you lost my release and oh crap, wrong building. I'm not doing it. Because you messed up so badly yesterday, my doctor didn't have my records, lucky for me, he knows his patients really well but his new office staff needs them and it would super! fabulous if you could fax my records to the two offices I just gave you. If you need those numbers again, please call me, I need this done immediately. Thanks so much and have a great day."

I really just need to go back to bed. I'm tired and angry and fed up and just in general, pissed off about a lot of things.

November 1, 2006

So, it all looks good.

But my thinking was at 12 months, I'd be all clear. Nope, it is now 12-18 months for a solid fusion.
They want me wearing my brace again. *sigh*
Start seeing a pain management doc down here which is good, those long rides are a serious pain in the ass.
I need to contact my primary doc about my stomach issues. I can do that.

This morning was just a fuck up. I was supposed to pick up my records and xrays, I call them when we are like 10 minutes away, to make sure I've got the correct building, they are ready for pickup etc.
They were not ready. They lost my paperwork for records pick up.
They were in a completely different building.
Oh, did I mention the Skyway bridge was moving at a freaking snails pace and that put us 30-40 minutes behind schedule?
Well, it was. They were changing light bulbs. During morning traffic hours. Someone brilliant thought that would be a great plan. Ass munches.
So, we finally get over the skyway, rush to Clearwater where none of my records are ready, wrong building too. "Oh no, we're not there where we told you to go, we're over here."
Fucking fucks.
So then after not getting my records, we had to whip back around and sorta fly all the way to Safety Harbor.
Have you ever seen a minivan do like 90mph?
We get there, xrays, strength tests, how's it going, wear your brace, 12-18 months, call your primary about tummy troubles, he'll know what to do, call this doc, he's gonna help you with pain management, come back in February for your year checkup, things look good but just because you're feeling good doesn't mean you can do all kinds of crazy shit, slow down, wear your brace, no lifting, no falling down.
*sigh*
Not the news I wanted to hear.
I wanted to hear; "Looks awesome! Way to go, solid fusion progressing nicely, doing great! Party on Kat!!"
So I'm sorta pissed off and sorta depressed, I've gone this long without having much of a life back and it's starting to get to me.
Ya see that? That was my eye twitching. I'm going slightly mental.
Things will be ok, I just need to slow down do what they say and all that shit.
Fucking bah. That's just for you Mr. Smarty pants who thinks I swear too much.
I'm gonna do a whole entry just for you. It will be nothing but every stinking fucking obscenity I know an I'm gonna dedicate it to you.
All for you. One of these days Mr. Man, I'm gonna tell you what I think of you and then I might even kick you just for being such a fucking douche bag.


Oh, this one intersection we were stopped at, was like smoker central. Check this out. It was actually worse than this but the light turned green so we couldn't snap more pics.
Shit like this amuses us.

P.S. We are finally taking Mark down to get his permit. Yes, I know, we suck, but life, she gets in the way sometimes eh?

Ribbit, ribbit.

Ha! For once in the last oh, 8 months, I remembered to ribbit!
Better work dammit...lol

I'm outta here today to see my doc, lots of stuff to go over, xrays, stomach issues, pain management etc.
I can't wait to see how it all looks in there. It's really neat when you see your xrays after this surgery and see all that titanium and know that it's inside you.
It feels kinda weird looking at it all and feeling how Col. Majors must have felt when he became the bionic man.
I mean, I feel all tingly cool I have all these parts but they haven't told me how much faster and stronger I'll be yet. ;)

So while I'm off riding into BFE for half the day, I leave you with a picture of what I'd rather be doing demonstrated so perfectly by Nova the slothcat.