Oy fucking vey.
I debated putting this here or privately.
Sebastian just came home from school, rode the bus home.
He got in a fight with another kid on the bus.
That kid called Sebastian buck tooth. He takes great offense to it because his teeth do need braces but the dentist has said we need to wait till all his baby teeth fall out and he has like 7-8 more to go. I know, weird at his age.
Here's where the controversy and HUGE problem comes in.
There is a rumor that the boy he got into the fight with is gay and has a picture of a naked man taped inside his binder.
Sebastian ran with it.
The kid punched Sebastian, called him buck tooth, Sebastian punched the kid and said "Well at least I don't have naked guys in my notebook you fag!"
Holy shit.
The kid who started the fight is being thrown off the bus. Not Sebastian.
I see a massive problem possibly headed my way.
If this kid does get thrown off the bus and goes home and his parents are pissed at him and he tells them why he got thrown off the bus and he really is gay, what Sebastian did may be considered a hate crime. That kids parents may call the school or the police, or both, and Sebastian may be in a world of trouble.
When he finished telling me the events, I tore into him. He was all proud of himself that he defended himself in a fight, the kid punched him in the face. He punched the kid in the stomach while the both of them hurled insults at each other.
He's grounded from like everything. No PS2, no computer, no outside, nothing.
I let him know what he did was so very fucking wrong. You can't say things like that. You can't attack someone's sexuality even in self defense. You just can't attack gay people. Period.
He knows that gays have rights and that they are just like the rest of us and deserve the same treatment as we all do, but for some reason, he took a rumor he heard and went with it.
This upsets me so much.
I know I've raised him better than this. I'm mortified he did this.
I honestly don't even know what to do if legal action is taken.
Ugh.
Comments
Sorry to hear about this! I know it's frustrating. What is sad is around here, the boys call one another 'gay' and 'fag' all. the. time. Whether they are gay or not. Not my boys in particular, but just all of them. Once the other insults don't work, that one flies. I don't know what to do about it, either, but I doubt that would ever reach hate crime status here. Or if anyone would even push thei issue.. I guess grounding was the right thing, but I have to admit I am glad he defended himself.
Posted by: Belle | November 9, 2006 7:46 AM
If anyone takes the name-calling seriously enough to take legal action, then we are ALL in deep trouble. Kids (especially boys) call each other FAGS all the time. They've been doing it for years. I hope everyone concerned takes a big fat chill pill.
Posted by: terry | November 9, 2006 12:21 PM
Would he have still been grounded if he had only fought back and not said "fag"?
Posted by: SMK | November 9, 2006 5:04 PM
Yes, because he knows better than to fight on the bus. It's not a playground, it's a moving vehicle
Posted by: kat | November 9, 2006 5:11 PM