Do you believe people can really change?
Just recently, I've come across someone who is very honest and open, it's refreshing. So many people lie or alter facts about even the tiniest things, so to have someone be so honest, and so open, is kind of new to me. And it's huge, big, I wasn't expecting the answer I got back.
I have trust issues y'all, I've talked about it plenty of times.
I ask a question, and get the most straightforward answer back, and I find myself sitting in awe of it, but wondering, still mistrusting, that it's genuine. I know it is, but trust issues > me.
Do you believe people can really change? Can you ever really trust anyone?
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I completely believe that people can change. I see the living proof of it all the time since I'm in 12-step programs. :-)
Posted by: Amy | March 26, 2007 7:09 PM
I think everyone can change to a certain extent. But there are some very fundamental components that have been forged by genetics or education or experience and those cannot be altered.
As for question two? No. I don't think anyone can ever completely trust another human being.
I'm not even cynical, just realistic.
Posted by: lattegirl | March 26, 2007 8:18 PM
Yes, I believe people can change. Definitely. Even though I believe that, I still find it very difficult to trust people anymore. I used to. But now? I don't know .... people are just too dishonest these days. :(
Posted by: Leigh | March 27, 2007 1:43 AM
Yes, People can change. I have seen it first hand. First, they have to want to change. Most people can't even see what is wrong with them. They have all these problems(emotional), and most of them stem from low self esteem. They are angry, depressed, addicts, or whatever, but the root of the problem is that they are not happy with their lives. What is not to be happy about. We complain about trivial bullshit when people around the globe are truly suffering. In this country, we are mostly a bunch of spoiled whiners.
Kind of getting off the subject, sorry.
If someone recognizes their faults and takes an active roll in changing their thinking, yes they can change. They only have to make the choice.
Life is all about choice. We always have a choice, even when we cry that we don't. We may not like the outcome of the choice, but we have one.
I guess you were talking about me.
Sorry to comment on a entry about me.
I was checking out your blog and found it.
I rally like your site.
Posted by: Mark | March 27, 2007 10:23 AM
Leigh, Most people are dishonest these days, so it's really nice when you find someone completely honest.
Posted by: kat | March 27, 2007 12:43 PM
Mark, It's perfectly fine that you commented.
Yes, it was about you. You have made an impression on me I can't shake.
Your honesty, goals, and ambition, is admirable. It's also very refreshing like I said.
It's just so rare to meet someone from your situation who isn't lying about it. You're not claiming innocent, you're not with holding information, you're not saying you were wrongly convicted like so many do.
I admire that.
Posted by: kat | March 27, 2007 12:52 PM