My Single Mom Life

I know who I am, and who I am is someone that says what I'm thinking.
There are people who hate that about me and I've always known that.
I know what other bloggers whisper back and forth after I post something controversial, or ruffle some feathers.
I am not politically correct, never have been, see no need for it.

I took it upon myself tonight to tell a blogging friend something I felt she needed to know about her blog, how it's being viewed, not just by me.
People talk, we all know that. Blogging has it's gossip mills just like real life next door neighbors, shit gets around.
So instead of just letting it go 'round, I clued her in to how it all looks to her readers.
I ended my email by saying it was ok if she was angry at me for telling her, if she was upset with me for being honest, it was ok, I just felt she needed to know.

I expected one of two things would happen after I hit send.
One, telling me to shove it where the sun don't shine, or two, no reply at all.

What I got back was a thank you, and some honesty from her.
I'm quoting her because it's what I'm talking about here, the blogging gossip mill.

One thing I have learned from knowing you, Kat, is that you always tell it like it is, even if it isn't pleasant. Some people don't like that about you, they think you speak your mind too much.

I know I speak my mind too much for comfort, but it's my blog dammit...LOL
I know I speak it elsewhere too and that's ok with me.
But what I really hate more than anything is cowardice.
No, maybe not that word, maybe, maybe it's a lack of respect.
Yes, that's it right there.
If anyone has a problem with what I say or how I say it, say it to me.
At least say it to me first, then feel free to run around and tell anyone else that you feel needs to know what a huge bitch I am.
I don't mind if you do that, I am a bitch and I will never apologize for it.

Why is it when a woman is assertive and has an opinion, she's a total bitch who talks too much?
If a man speaks his mind, he's assertive and valued, but a woman speaks her mind, and she's this huge bitch who talks too much.

It doesn't bother me that people talk about me, as a matter of fact, it's quite nice. *laughs*
I have a twisted sense of humor about this stuff and I find it hilarious that people talk about how I talk too much.
Cracks me up.

But anyway, I'm glad that my friend understood what I was telling her, and she valued what I had to say. She thanked me for being honest, and even told me to kick her in the ass if I caught her doing that again.
So I'm not all bad, I'm not speaking my mind too much, I'm being honest and it's valued by those who can see past the bitch and see me for who I am.

I do have some personal life issues which I still need to fix, I need to remove toxic people from my life and I'm trying to do that in a positive way. I don't like hurting people.
I am working on being my usual honest self but in a friendlier way.
It's still going to be seen as being a total bitch, but not much I can do about any of that.
People often perceive us in ways we have no control over.
I can only be myself and hope that people take the time to know me, and not just sit in not so quiet judgment of me.
It's actually, quite loud.