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To a head.

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The situation with the neighbors grows increasingly bad.
Yes I know, they were already lying, nasty people, but to steal from my kids and then lie about it, well, I blew a gasket.
Big time.

The boy who we all know lives in shitsville in that damn disgusting house, where he is abused verbally and emotionally, and physically, borrowed Sebastian's gameboy color and a game when his grandfather died. We loaned him the game because they had to take a Greyhound bus all the way to Ohio because the pos husband would not buy plane tickets for his wife and kid to go say goodbye to the dying grandfather.

So they come back, we ask for it back, he asks to borrow it a little longer, he has almost beat the game.
We say yes.
A month goes by, I ask him for the game back. He says he'll go get it and come back.
This question and answer has been repeated well over a dozen times with the last time being this Tuesday July 3rd.
On Tuesday, he came in the house to play, I asked him to go get and bring it back.
He says he'll go get it and bring it back. He never did.

I went over to their house at approximately 6:30pm to ask for it back.
The boy has told us repeatedly, that he has it and it's in his house, he'll go get it and return it.
I have this gut feeling he hasn't returned it because the mother is pissed off at me for not helping her anymore with gas, food, toilet paper, money, etc.
So I go to get it back.

The kid answers the door, I ask him to go get it, he says "Ok Kat", and attempts to go get it.
The mother starts screaming at me from her kitchen table that I gave it to him and they will not be returning it.
I said no, Bobby knows we loaned it to him, please let him go get it and give it back to me.
She says it again, that I gave it to him.
I repeated that it was not a gift but a loan, please go get it Bobby.
She starts bellowing at the top of her lungs that if I don't get away from her door immediately, that she will "call the law."
"Call the law then Letty, call them. It's my property, it was a loan, Bobby knows it was a loan, you just don't want to give it back."
She's still screaming, the kid is standing there looking like if he moves a muscle to go get it, she'll beat him within inches of his life, then she tells him, to "slam the door on the fucking bitch!"
So before the door closed, I said if you won't give it back and want the law involved, so be it.

I came back to my side, grabbed my phone and dialed.
Yes, I was heated, it's a gameboy, not a life threatening situation, but it's the principle of the thing.
The cops come, I tell them the whole situation including that the child is in fear for his life, so if they ask him about it, he will lie for his mother because he's afraid of his parents.

The cops knock on their door, Bobby answers it, he's crying, I hear him say plain as day, "Mom, let me give it back."
His mom, Letty comes to the door and the cop asks her where the gameboy is.
She says I gave it to him as a gift because his grandfather died. (Hello? why the fuck would I give him a gift because someone died?)
The cops tell her that's not what me or my children say, and that Bobby has told us he has it and will give it back.

She says "We don't have it anymore. Because that lying bitch next door gave it to him as a gift, he took it to school and traded it. It's gone."
The cop looks at Bobby and says, "Son, I just heard you ask your mom if you could give it back. Do you have it or did you trade it?"
He says, "I'm sorry, I made a mistake. I did trade it at school."
The cop looks over at me, I said "I told ya, he will lie for her because they abuse him."
He asks Bobby again. Bobby lies again.

During this questioning, the pos husband comes outside to flip some burgers on that grill you see in the picture. Placed right in front of the cars engine and right next to all that other stuff including a can of gasoline and a big open container of lighter fluid.
The cop watches him flip the burgers and notes all the flammables, writes it down in his notepad and asks the pos why he's grilling under the carport.
"Cuz it was gonna rain and I didn't wan the food to get wet."
Then the pos goes to go back in the house and Letty tries to stop him so he can help her in this situation.
He says, "I ain't in this you damn bitch. I told you to give it back and you said no. Deal with the consequences and get the fuck outta my face."

The cop asks her one more time if she intends on giving it back, he knows they are lying.
She says no, it was a gift, we traded it.
Yeah, if it was truly traded, she probably traded it for pot or other drugs.
The cop says ok, wants the husbands name and asks if there are any warrants out for either of them.
She says no, which is an outright lie, the husband is wanted in Ohio on felony kidnapping charges of his own kid.
The cop writes his full name down and hers, and says to leave my family alone. If they so much as come near our side of the property, he'll be back and someone will go to jail.

He comes over to me and asks about the abuse. I said it's been reported multiple times, no one does anything. Bobby has been being abused for a long time and no one helps him, he lies to protect them because they will beat him if he doesn't.
He asks if I have proof, I tell him I have pictures and other documentation, I've called and made non-anonymous statements about it several times, so have other neighbors. If they call CPS, they will be able to find that out.
He tells me he will investigate the abuse and someone will contact me for more information, sorry about the gameboy, but there's not much he can do. He gives me a case number and says I can pursue it civilly if I want to.
He tells me if they come near my door, if I notice any vandalism or anything on our half of the duplex damaged, to call back and give them the case number and they will come back out.

So anyway, yeah, sucky.
I'll probably get Sebastian a new gameboy for xmas, maybe a gameboy advance or ps handheld.
It just sucks that she made her kid lie again.
He has it and wants to give it back, and she made him lie to a cop.

Comments

Yeah - pursue it civally would mean paying a filing fee for small claims court. Don't know about FL, but here it's $75 and another $25 to get the cops to serve the lawsuit.
Hardly worth it. Even if you win all you get is a judgment so you can file some more papers for more $ to try to get a wage garnishment.

Next time the kid comes around, offer him $20 if he sneaks it out of the house and gives it back and then stiff him on the $20! Ha!!

That's just sick. The boy wants to do the right thing, but the mother won't let him. There are just no words to describe how crazy that is. I do hope they will finally take the abuse seriously.

I am so sorry you are going thru this Kat, its hard being the one looking in from the outside and seeing all the negativity and how she is raising her child in a very negative way. Something similiar happened to me over 10 years ago, I listened to my neighbors upstairs fighting, physically and everything. Broke my heart, all because she loved him. I don't turn my back on situations like this either. You have a good heart, stay strong and eventually something will happen.

I'm not pursuing it civilly, that was just the cops standard line.
It was the principal of the whole thing.
The boy wants to give it back and she will not let him.
That's sick and deranged.
This is a form of abuse too.
He's being raised to lie, cheat and steal.
How is that good for him?
What kind of man will he be?

The whole thing just makes me so sad and I'm lost in that.
He is a good kid, wants to do what's right, and his mother won't let him.
Crazy!
Most parents would be proud of their kid for doing the right thing, we'd encourage the right thing, but not her.
Her pos husband is even disgusted by what she's doing an that man is truly giant piece of shit!

Like I said, it's not the gameboy, I can buy another one, not the point of this at all.
The point was for them to do the right thing, let him do the right thing.
But it's par for the course with this sick family.
It's all about what they can get and from whom.

Just hearing about that family makes me sick to my stomach! You're an AWESOME woman for being so strong and sticking up for what's right!


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