My Single Mom Life

I have been listening to some life coach cds lately, and also reading a few books on the subject.
I have been on a 'fix my life' kick, so I am looking to find ways to get myself, and my life back on track.
The cds are from Clay Nelson, a business and life coach, who has spent years developing and mastering techniques to help people and businesses, make better choices, be more productive, and find their purpose.

I need to find my purpose, and create my purpose statement in my life.
I don't really have one.
One of the tag lines of this blog which has generally described my life for many years is, trying to stay alive and do the best I can.
What the hell kind of purpose statement is that?
In order to find my purpose, I need to ask myself two questions.
They are;
What am I present to?
What am I missing?

Hrm.
I am present to my family. My sons are what keep me going most days.
They are the reason I do many of the things I do.
I work as much, and as hard as I can, to provide for them, make sure they are taken care of and have what they need.

What am I missing?
Ha! A lot of stuff, but I know that's not really what Clay means.
Or maybe he does.
Hrm.
I am missing my mobility, my ability to earn a decent income, which would make my life and my sons' lives so much easier.
I am missing someone to share life experiences with.
I know that having someone to share my life with is dependent on being 'ok' with who I am first, and I know I'm not.

Clay talks about looking in the mirror, and not just looking at our features, but at 'ourselves'.
There are days I cannot stand looking at myself, and it has nothing at all to do with how I physically look.
There are things about the way I speak, which others find troublesome.
I am often accused of being cold hearted, mean, and bitchy.
I am not though. It's an incredible assumption about me that has always been said about me, but is so terribly wrong.

I speak to people in a very direct and blunt manner.
I do not sugar coat anything for anyone, and it's so often mistaken as being a bitch.
Maybe I need to learn how to smile while speaking, maybe then, when I'm being incredibly honest, they'll think I'm being nice instead of a bitch.
I wonder if there's a cd on how to speak to people so they think being direct isn't being bitchy.
So perhaps their perception, their view, would be made to come across to feel better for them.
I'll have to look for one.

The second cd in the series was about fear, and not only how fear holds us back, but how it can also be a great motivator.
I've listened to it twice now, and will probably listen to it again and again.
It's clicking and making so much sense for me.

The cds are helping me to open my eyes, to really take a look at who I am, what I want, where I'm going, and where I am.
If you'd be interested in learning more about Clay, his cds, or his radio program, you can check out his site, Business and Life Coaching.
I'll be off listening to his cds again. The fear one, really is making so much sense, it's kinda scary.