Would you make him ask?
There's a thread I've been following on the local forums this morning, about a girlfriend who says she's lost physical attraction in her boyfriend because of a hair cut.
I can't share the pictures with you because these are people I know, I have no permission to share them with you.
But the boyfriend had one of those sorta spikey haircuts, all standing up, he had on a flashy button down shirt, some gold jewelry around his neck, in the before picture.
In the after picture, he was wearing a t-shirt, shaved his head bald, and had an eyebrow ring in.
I understand the after look isn't for everyone, but he is his own man, has a right to shave his head if he so chooses, but she is very upset by this, thinks he should have asked her before he did it, so she could have talked him out of it.
I really am of the opinion that he is his own man, dating or married, we are still our own persons, and we can do what we like with our hair.
It will grow back anyway.
But some people are of the belief that you should ask your SO or spouse, before doing anything to your physical appearance, because they may not like it.
The fact is, that the SO likes it, they wanted to do it, it's their body, their choice.
What do you think?
Would you make your SO ask basically what amounts to your permission, before they can cut or color their hair?
Comments
I can understand where the girl is coming from. I don't think he should have to ask her permission, but he should have consulted with her before drastically changing his appearance. I think we all want to be considered physically attractive by our significant others. So why do something that might make you less physically appealling in their eyes? My husband has had a moustache since I met him (17 years ago). One Halloween, he shaved it off as part of his costume. I hated it. It completely changed the look of his face. Seriously, if he looked like that when I met him, I probably would have passed him up. I know that sounds bad but I'm being honest. We are a very superficial society. We can all talk about not judging books by their covers and all that but, what is the very first thing we notice about a person when we see them? My .02.
Posted by: Brandi | February 7, 2008 12:52 PM
I cut and color my own hair a lot, and I never have to ask permission from Mike. So why should he have to ask me for permission to do anything with his hair?
When I first met him, he had short hair. Then he decided to grow it out so he could have a ponytail. I liked it, he had a ponytail in our wedding pics.
But then his hair started thinning, and the ponytail didn't look so good anymore, so he went to the barbershop across the street and had it cut. He does look much better with the short hair now, but if he decided not to get it cut again, I won't argue.
Everyone should have a look that they are comfortable with, something that makes them feel good about themselves. No other person should have the right to try to dictate how another looks.
Posted by: Christine | February 7, 2008 1:30 PM
Well, shaving your head is way more drastic than a new hairdo, and I think I would be upset too if my husband didn't at least mention it to me first. But if he really wanted it I would never discourage him....but if it turned me off, oh well....! LOL
Posted by: Chris (Singer) | February 7, 2008 3:28 PM
My hubby has male-pattern baldness, I couldn't care less if he decided to shave his head, grow it out, cut it super-short or whatever. It's his hair. He's had a mustache ever since I've known him, I've never seen him without it, but if he wants to shave it off, it's his face, his choice, I'll still love him & be attracted to him. I do whatever I want to or with my hair, I don't consult him & he either likes it or gets used to it *L*
Posted by: Dyane | February 7, 2008 6:09 PM