Bitter and alone.
I have to go take a shower, we're going out to lunch today with a friend of mine and her son, but I just have to get this off my chest.
There's a very bitter and angry woman in my life, more like on the outer circle of it, kind of hard to explain but I'll try.
My sister Jo and I were both adopted into one family.
We are not blood sisters, but we are 'family'.
Jo knows her blood sisters, Janice and Mary.
Janice is a free spirit, kind and fun, a loner of sorts, but she's a great person and she's happy, and she helped me out with something pretty serious I needed awhile ago, and I thank her so much for gathering all that information for me.
Mary, is an angry, bitter, and alone woman, who thrives on putting other people down.
She is painfully cruel to both Jo and Janice, she even takes a few jabs at me.
But I know her kind, so I don't let it affect me.
She says hurtful things, she judges based on what she expects and wants other people to be, not on who they are.
She doesn't love her family with all their awesomeness and faults, she judges, she picks away, she is vicious.
She is alone because of this, she claims to enjoy being away from those of us who "disappoint" her because we are 'beneath her', yet she constantly emails and calls to try and get in touch so she can send countless more hate-filled words.
I only wish she could shut her mouth and open her eyes long enough to see what she's missing out on by being such a bitch.
The beautiful and super smart nieces, the cool nephews, and the most awesome sisters that I could ever ask for.
Jo may not be my blood, but we were raised together and are more sisters than Mary could ever hope to be.
I may not be financially well off, I may smoke and swear, I may be pierced, but I'm a good person.
Jo is a good person, and she's an amazing mother to my most awesome nieces.
Mary doesn't deserve to be in any of our lives if she continues with this hateful judging of her own flesh and blood, she doesn't deserve the family she has and doesn't truly know.
I consider myself lucky every single day, that Jo is in my life, that Susan and Skye are in my life, that I have a family who loves me regardless of my faults.
I love them right back, that's family.
Comments
My suggestion, for what it is worth, would be for everyone to outright ignore her. She chooses to be alone but not act like it. She is a miserable woman that has harmed herself. Maybe the only way to get a point across to her is by deleting her emails (don't read them at all) if she calls and you happen to answer the phone just tell her that you are busy or don't answer the phone at all if you know it is her. Eventually she will really know what being alone is. It may or may not bring her to reality. But at least you and your loved ones will not have to subjected to her cruelty.
Posted by: Mindy | April 3, 2008 12:37 PM
My ex-husband's mother was a lot like this. She thought her own kids could do no wrong, but she was mean and hateful to almost everyone else, including me. Nothing I ever did was good enough for the bitch. I swear, he son could have married Miss America, and that still would not have been good enough for her.
All three of her kids, including her son who I was married to, were showing signs of getting to be more and more like her. They would all gang up on me for some stupid thing or another.
No one should have to live like this. The best thing to do is remove these negative people from your life. They will never change. If Mary ends up dying alone in some sub-standard nursing home, with no one to visit her, well, she brought it all on herself.
Posted by: Christine | April 3, 2008 1:28 PM
Long time no read. (long time no internet connection lol)... I love how you are just to the point and can get the details out without having to stoop to her level.
I think in order to feel happy about our family and friends we must first be happy with ourselves. She must be very unhappy with herself!
Posted by: Kelly | April 3, 2008 3:04 PM
Kelly has hit the nail right on the head!
Posted by: Mindy | April 3, 2008 4:46 PM
Exactly, what Mindy said. My SIL is a lot like that and I truly believe it's because she doesn't like herself and doesn't have much going on in her own life.
Posted by: Brandi | April 4, 2008 7:37 AM