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Neighbor, not servant.

This afternoon and evening, is just dragging by.
Probably because I'm not as busy today as I normally am.
It's been rainy off and on, so my joints are stiff, so I've been trying to take it as easy as possible today.
I have a long car ride tomorrow, and tend to get super stiff riding for that long, so yeah, I tried to have an easy day.

But that's just not possible when you have a needy neighbor.
I try so hard to be understanding of her, I really do.
Disabled, lonely, bored, lonely, Oh I said that one, um, alone even if her husband and son are home, so she's very needy.
She calls literally 5-10 times per day, needing help with a multitude of things.
She dropped her glasses and can't reach them, she doesn't understand her health insurance, can I come explain it to her, she needs help with her laundry, or like today, her cat knocked over the tv stand and now everything is on the floor behind it, and she can't watch tv.
Oh, and then she needed stuff from the store, and was I going to be going.
Um, no, I went yesterday, with her, and she bought $241 worth of crap.

So yeah, she needed someone to come fix all of her tv stuff.
Sebastian is not home, won't be home till tomorrow morning at 8am, and Mark was asleep all day.
I let him sleep, I don't have a problem with that.
She did though.
She wanted me to wake him up to come pick up and fix all her stuff.
I said when he wakes, I would ask him, but I'm not going to make him do anything he doesn't want to.
We are not going to spend our whole summer taking care of her and her home.
It's already started, it's been this way for awhile.
Her son is a lazy jerk, he won't do any chores even if she pays him, so she asks my boys, and because I've raised my boys to help people who need it, they do.
So she's taking advantage of us.

Today, I said no, I wouldn't make him do anything, he needs a break, a day to just have fun.
And I also played sick.
I know, it's terrible of me, but she has called no less than 7 times today, and each time I have told her I am not feeling well so I won't be going to any stores or doing anything, plus, my back hurts and I need to rest.
And when she kept calling, I had Mark answer and tell her I went to bed due to not feeling well.

I feel horrible about lying, but even after having said no to her, she continued to call and request help with stuff.
I felt like I was left with no choice but to lie.
I do not like lying to people, but when I say no and it's completely ignored like I should just do what she wants, I had to in order to just get some peace and quiet.
And I really believe it is because of how needy some of the people in my life are, that I have a very hard time asking others for help even if I truly need it.
Mindy offers so often to help me, and I know I need help sometimes, but I don't ever want to be seen as a burden or hated because I need help sometimes ya know?
Does that make sense?

So I'm going to go take care of a few things I need to finish up for myself tonight, and then I'm going to go make some popcorn in the popcorn machines, and watch some bad tv shows or play with my Sims until I need to go to bed.
I set several alarms including a wake up call, so I will be ready in the am.
Later days.

Comments

There's a very fine line between helping people in need and being taken advantage of. I believe that when you set firm boundaries (as, in "after such-and-such a time, I am not available", it helps keep your sanity. It's tough when she's right next door like that.

Needing help and being needy are two different things and I can never see you as needy. You're too giving and that's probably why this lady does it to you. Good for you for lying to her! Sometimes you just have to.


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