Single and happy.
I've been wanting to write about this particular subject for some time now, but things in my life just kept coming up, and so posting it would have just felt like the wrong time.
It still does feel like the wrong time, but enough procrastination.
I'm part of this huge community of bloggers, all bloggers, and then we get broken down into groupings, and my particular grouping is the single mom bloggers.
But I don't seem to really fit with most of them either.
Almost every single mom blogger I know is either currently dating, looking for a date, dating multiple people, using online dating services, living with a boyfriend, looking for a boyfriend, just looking for mr. right.
And I'm not.
I'm not dating or looking for anyone to date.
I haven't been looking for that for a very long time, and guess what?
I'm happy.
I'm happy being by myself, I don't feel like I need someone to complete me, to fix my broken and single life.
I don't need any diamond rings, I don't need a piece of paper, I'm really quite happy being single.
I've been raising my sons on my own for 15+ years now, and we're all doing ok.
We've had our share of hard times and bad times, the teens have wanted me to be with someone so that I could be happy, but I always have told them that I am happy.
I enjoy being single, I can come and go as I please, I sleep on whatever side of the bed I want, I don't worry about having to please someone else, I don't worry about breaking up or doing something that would cause someone to break up with me, I am just truly happy being single.
There are other people out there who are happy being single too, not feeling like we need to be partnered up like society tells us that we need to, and there's a website that's just for those happy single people, Single Edition.
It's not a dating website, it's just a site for happy singles.
There's articles on travel and leisure for singles, expert advice, tech and gadgets, shopping, money and careers, and single living.
It's a really good site set up for truly happy singles.
There's life beyond dating, living life on your own terms, you are not defined by whether or not you have a partner, you are defined by who you are, as an individual.
Who said that we have to be with someone?
Who decided that we have to be a couple, that the only way to true happiness is by being partnered up with someone else?
You can have a truly happy and meaningful life being single and living life on your own terms.
Comments
I'm with you. Ya know what else happily single means? You're not emotionally needy!
Posted by: Chris | May 11, 2009 11:13 PM
I wish you continued happiness! I hope you had a nice Mother's Day.
Posted by: The Constant Complainer | May 12, 2009 4:03 PM
:O) Good timing for me to read. I just struggle with the desires of my heart feeling like I'm missing something when my brain tells me I don't need anything. I hope some day to find the freedom and balance to just be happy right where I am. :O)
Posted by: Nikki | May 12, 2009 6:58 PM
Your heart feels like it's missing something because society and tv, commercials, everything, tells us that we have to be partnered up, be a couple, that there must be something wrong with us if we're single.
There's nothing wrong with being single.
And ya know what?
When you stop looking for the next boyfriend, when you stop trying to be "perfect" so that you can find a mate, when you become truly happy with being single, the right person will find you.
It's true.
I have found some really good men over the years when I wasn't looking, and a few of them even told me that I became like even more attractive to them when they found out that I was totally happy being alone, that I wasn't out there looking to find mr. right.
They said that the fact that I lived alone, was happy, and didn't depend on another person for money or companionship, that I was far more attractive to them then the girls who went out every weekend looking to find a guy.
You have to find true happiness with yourself before anyone else will find true happiness with you.
Posted by: Kat | May 12, 2009 7:45 PM